When you enter into a relationship with someone, a serious relationship, you want to give what you can on an emotional level. Physical connections are obvious, but emotional connections open windows into another person’s very being. Those windows will never open all the way unless you and your partner are truly emotionally available.
It’s not hard to tell if the person you’re in a relationship with isn’t emotionally available; the hard part is accepting it. If you’re giving yourself emotionally and the other person isn’t, you can probably feel it. Emotional connections involve a give and take, and you’ll be able to tell if you’re the only one giving.
Here are four signs someone is emotionally unavailable…
1. They Don’t Consider Your Feelings
Empathy and sympathy are things felt by those who are emotionally available. If you’re in a relationship with someone and they don’t take your feelings into consideration, it’s because they aren’t allowing themselves to connect with you on an emotional level.
A working, serious relationship involves two people who feel the same things; when one person is upset, the other person feels upset for them.
2. They Don’t Try to Get to Know You
When you first start dating someone, you can tell it’s serious by how much they want to know. You may be asking questions, really listening to them talk about themselves, or really just trying to figure out what makes them tick.
If they aren’t reciprocating this behavior, it’s a sign they don’t really want to know you on a deeper level. You have to know someone to connect with them emotionally, otherwise no bond is possible.
3. They Don’t Open Up in Person
Modern technology has made it easy for the emotionally unavailable to fake legitimate connections.
It’s easy to come across as vulnerable when you’re texting or sending an email; writing has a way of allowing the reader to feel what they want to feel instead of seeing the truth. If you’re wondering if this applies to the person you’re interested in, talk to them in person, see if they make eye contact or are as willing to open up as they are via message.
4. They Create Distance
This is a big sign someone is emotionally unavailable. Someone who doesn’t truly want to connect with you will create distance in order to remain safe. Two people in love, or at least two people willing to be serious, try to close the gaps in their relationship by any means necessary. Even if someone has trust issues, you’ll be able to see them actively working on getting over them if they’re serious.