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You’ve probably been told to just let it go, but letting go of the past is much easier said than done. Regrets are usually tied to events in the past that were emotional, traumatic, or the spark behind a flame of consequence, which means it’s not that easy to just let it go. However, letting things go is important, and it’s what many of us need to learn how to do. After all, the past is the past, and the present is all we have to enjoy.

But how do you know when it’s time to let something go? It’s not always easy to tell. Sometimes past events or experiences will directly affect how you perform in the present, and sometimes things lie dormant, waiting for the right time to emerge. Here are ten signs you need to let go of the past and move forward.

1. You Feel Drained

If the people you’re hanging around with or you environment seems to be draining you of your energy, it’s time to move on. Sometimes people grow faster than their friends, this is just reality, but it’s a reality that needs facing.

2. You’re Questioned

If you feel like your core beliefs, morals, or integrity is in question, it’s time to leave your current situation behind and move on.

3. Things That Used To Excite You, Depress You

If something in your life you used to enjoy is no longer making you happy, you need to leave that something in the past and find something new.

4. You ‘Fake’ Your Happiness

If you’re faking positivity or a friendly disposition, it’s probably time to confront this self-deception and move past it.

5. You Feel Trapped

If you feel like you need more freedom in your life, it’s most likely because you do, so consider changing things up.

6. It Feels ‘Easy’ To Be Sad

If you find it hard to be happy rather than sad, and sometimes you’re overwhelmed by your own sorrow, it’s time for some drastic life changes.

7. You’re Often Bored

If you feel an undeniable sense of boredom with your life, it’s time to find something new to do. Leave what you’re doing in the past and start trying new things.

8. You Feel Stuck

If you feel like you can’t break a cycle or pattern that’s causing you harm, it’s time to self-reflect on why, and actively strive for some major changes.

9. You Feel Alone When Your With People

If you have feelings of isolation, that you’re constantly misunderstood, or you have to try to be accepted, you’re hanging around the wrong people. Although it may be difficult to do, you need to find people to be around who allow you to be who you are.

10. You Neglect Your Personal Relationships

If you realize that you’ve been neglecting personal relationships for the sake of someone else, understand that you’re only hurting them and yourself. Make a positive change.

Personal authenticity is a life decision. It’s the decision you make when you know yourself, when you know what you stand for and how you want to live your life. It involves self-knowledge, moral integrity, and a commitment to the values that make you who you are as a person. This decision has the power to weed out the unimportant people in your life and show you who is worth keeping around. It’s a decision that not everyone in your life will be on board for; it’s intimidating.

Authenticity is a personality trait that’s hard to find in today’s society. People spend a ludicrous amount of time pretending to be someone they’re not for the sake of outside perception.

However, these people have no idea who they actually are, what they stand for or why, and most importantly, they don’t know who they want to be. Here are four signs that you or someone you’re around is authentic.

1. Integrity

An authentic person will always choose to live according to his or her values. They’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what’s important in life, and they plan on sticking to it.

Someone who is willing to give up on their ideas or values easily isn’t authentic, and they haven’t taken the time to consider what they really care about. When you have integrity, you’re going to upset some people around you; they don’t realize they’re upset simply because they want to be the same way.

2. Courage

Being authentic takes courage. The amount of people who are authentic in the world today is astronomically small, which means if you’re authentic, you swim against the current.

Not only is this challenging, but it’s scary as well. It takes a great deal of courage not only to follow your own values, but to also know yourself as you truly are. Without courage, you can’t live the way you know is right.

3. Introspection

In order to be authentic, you have to know yourself.

This is a learning exercise that lasts a lifetime, but it needs to start as soon as possible. Being authentic takes a great deal of self-reflection, self-knowledge, and understanding.

After all, how can you be authentic without knowing who you are? Take a look at yourself with honesty and open eyes; figure out who you are, what’s important, and what you care about in order to be yourself.

4. Acceptance

Lastly, if you want to be authentic, you have to accept who you are.

In fact, the more willing you are to accept your true self, the less willing you are to pass judgement onto others. When we condemn others, we’re really condemning ourselves through the failures of someone else; judging others says more about yourself than it does the other person. Authentic people who accept the people they are, will always be willing to accept others.

Finding “the one” is undeniably difficult. Everyone wants to know if who they’re with is the right person for them, but most importantly, they want to be able to know for sure. As it turns out, science might be able to provide an answer when it comes to find your soulmate, and it has to do with actual, physical signs felt by the body. Feeling butterflies in your stomach when you’re around the person you love might actually be a good indicator, according to science.

As was stated before, there are some physical signs that they body will experience when you find “the one.” These signs might vary from person to person, but generally everyone will be able to experience them when they’re with the right person. Here are six signs that you’ve found the person who’s right for you.

1. You Feel Optimistic

If you’re in a relationship where you feel depressed, chances are that it isn’t the relationship for you.

The right person will make you feel optimistic in regards to the future; they support your hopes and dreams rather than push them to the side. Life is better when the glass is half full, and you want to be with someone who helps you see that.

2. You Feel Like Yourself

You can’t help but go through life putting up a front for people. Whether it’s your career or your personal life, you put of a façade to hide weaknesses around the people you don’t trust to the fullest extent. However, this shouldn’t be the case with your soulmate; you need to be able to be yourself. If you’re with someone who makes you feel like you, stick with them.

3. You Feel Healthy

If you’ve found the one, you’ll feel healthier overall.

You’ll have a better outlook on life, you’ll be able to express yourself emotionally through both good and bad times, and you’ll want to make smarter choices for the sake of longevity. These are all things that make your life healthier both mentally and physically.

4. You Feel Empathetic

Empathy is a sign that someone is extremely important to you. When your loved one hurts, you hurt too, which is a sign they’re the “the one.” You’ll know you’ve found the one when you can’t bear to see the hurt, no matter the reason. You’ll feel like trading places with them so that you can suffer in their stead.

5. You Feel Calm

When you’re in their presence, you’ll feel an overwhelming sense of calm. It won’t matter what you have to do the next day or even in the next moment, you’ll feel like things will work out the way they need to. This is something that people rarely experience in life, but something they look for forever.

If you’ve found it, keep it.

6. You Feel a Need

Strong emotions produce physical symptoms in the body, and when you feel a need to be around a person mentally, emotionally, and physically, you’ve found someone worth holding onto. Some people will tell you that you shouldn’t need anyone, but this is a different kind of need, almost like an ache; you don’t need anything specifically, just their presence.

When you enter into a relationship, you hope it’s with someone who can fulfill your needs emotionally, physically, and mentally. However, it’s difficult to have the self-awareness to know exactly what those needs are. Not only do you have to know your own needs, but you also have to know your partner.

Your partner’s zodiac sign can tell you a lot about what they need from you, and the best way to go about fulfilling those needs. Here’s how to know what your partner needs according to their zodiac sign.

Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

People who fall under this sign are said to have a number of different personality traits and are very complicated. They’re full of adventure and are always ready to take the next big trip. They enjoy deep conversations, but have a tough time laying all their emotions out on the table.

Pisces (Feb 19 – March 20)

Pisces are sensitive romantics. They enjoy the arts and expressing themselves creatively, which means they need a partner who enjoys those things as well. Due to their sensitive nature, they need emotional intimacy in their relationships, along with vulnerability.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries require honest above anything else. Communication is the key when in a relationship with someone who falls under this sign. Don’t hide anything from them and be willing to communicate when the relationship falls under tough times. They are bold, transparent, and they need someone who can tell it like it is.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

These people are the strong, silent type who will say everything is perfect on the surface. They don’t do well when it comes to expressing their feelings, so their partner needs to help them communicate how they feel. They need to feel comfortable in a relationship, and they can’t be pushed into anything.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Geminis have a tendency to lose track of their emotions and thoughts, which means they need someone to help them stay grounded. They can seem like flakes, but in reality, they have a ton of different interests that they just lose track of what they’re doing. Make sure that you keep things exciting for them while in a relationship.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Cancers give everything when it comes to their relationships. This includes the mind, body, soul, heart, home, clothing, and even the dog simply for the sake of their partner’s happiness. As their partner, you need to make sure that you don’t take advantage of their giving nature. Due to their nature, they have extremely high expectations of others, especially their partner’s.

Leo (July 23 – Aug 22)

Leos are confident and carefree, and they need a partner who also reflects this type of nature. They don’t do well in a relationship where they feel like they’re being held back from something important. Although they can come off as arrogant, they just have high expectations of themselves. They require serious relationships with serious intentions.

Virgo (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Virgos are analytical and logical when it comes to their relationships. Although they have a tender side, they rarely let the people around them see it. They need a partner who is emotionally available, but also someone who doesn’t let their emotions rule the show when it comes to making decisions.

Libra (Set 23 – Oct 22)

Libras have a very peaceful and balanced nature. They need to make sure that any relationship they are in will support this nature before considering anything serious. Equality is extremely important to people who fall under this sign, and that goes double for any romantic entanglements.

Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Scorpios are likely to have trust issues when it comes to their romantic relationships. If you’re the partner of a Scorpio, you need to be able to show that you’re trustworthy before anything gets too serious. If you don’t, be expected to be kept at an arm’s length. When they feel comfortable, they will open up.

Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

These people love adventure, they’re witty, and they’re philosophical. Due to their philosophical nature, they can feel lost at times, which is why they need a partner who will be able to comfort them when the time comes. Their emotions can flare easily, so they need someone to help keep them in check.

Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Capricorns are often seen as traditional. They are hardworking and determined to achieve their goals no matter what. They need a partner with a strong work ethic who understands when they stay at the office late and miss dinner. However, their partner also needs to be able to show them the benefits of slowing down and enjoying life in the present.

Spouses or significant others cheating on each other might sound like a normal occurrence, until it happens to you. According to the experts, most women cheat because they feel something lacking emotionally within their relationship, but men typically cheat because they feel something lacking physically. Regardless of motives, women and men cheat at about the same rate, which some people might find surprising.

What’s more interesting is that partners who tend to cheat are also more likely to be untrustworthy in other areas of the relationship. Covering up an affair leads to more and more lies, which then makes it easier to lie in general; the more a partner lies, the more he or she becomes comfortable doing it. The trick is finding a partner you know will never feel the need to cheat. Here are five signs he or she will never cheat.

1. They Keep You Informed

If you’re with someone who enjoys keeping you up to date on their life outside of the relationship, the chances that they cheat will be very small.

Dishonest people tend to share as little as possible in an attempt to minimize the risk that they give away too much. Sharing shows that your partner not only wants to include you in the little details of their life, but that they take pride in telling you as well.

2. Their Schedule is Full

When your partner is forced to juggle work, school, the relationship, and other responsibilities, you can rest easy that they don’t have time for an affair.

Affairs are like second relationships; although they might not be as in depth, they still take time and energy away from the other aspects of life. When your partner is busy, they don’t have time for another relationship, especially one that demands physical attention.

3. They’re Honest in Everything

It’s easy to tell if you’re with an honest partner; simply think back to when they told you they were going to do something.

If they keep their word in almost every aspect of the relationship, you can be pretty sure they aren’t sleeping around. As was stated before, if a partner is cheating, they tend to lie about other aspects of the relationship as well. Honest people are honest no matter the situation.

4. They Cut All Ties to Past Romances

Some people insist on staying in touch with past romantic partners, but this is just unnecessary. If your partner has cut all ties to past relationships, not only does it mean they’re serious, but it also means they’re going to stay faithful. Nothing good can come from staying in touch with past partners, and it will only serve to hurt your current partner’s feelings.

5. They Make Time for You

When your partner fights to make time with you, and actually comes through, you know you’re the only one on their mind. When a partner begins having an affair, it’s no secret that they’ll start spending less and less time with you. Your partner should always try to find a little extra time here and there, and if they do, they probably aren’t going to cheat.

We all want to find the one, but it’s so much harder than it should be. If you’re anything like me, your romantic entanglements of the past have been disappointing, and it can be difficult to find the motivation to keep searching for the right partner. However, if we didn’t spend time making the connections we know don’t work, we’d never be able to recognize the connections that are worth making.

The most frustrating aspect of finding a long-term partner is not knowing who’s long-term material and who isn’t; how can you tell if you’ve found someone worth spending a significant amount of time with? Here are six signs that you’ve found a partner worth keeping.

1. You Share Common Interests

When you meet someone you like, you need to make sure that you share some common interests before getting too serious.

Chances are, you already have at least one common interest or you wouldn’t have met, but it’s important to find a few more. If you commit to a relationship with someone who doesn’t enjoy doing the same things you enjoy doing, you’ll find out that it’s hard to make time for one another.

2. They Know and Accept Their Flaws

Self-awareness is important in a long-term partner. Not only is it attractive in a person, but it also means that the person you’ve found is realistic. Obviously no one is perfect, so it’s important to recognize this, accept what can’t be changed, and focus on the positives in life. You don’t want to be with someone who’s stuck in the past or constantly focusing on the things they can’t do.

3. They Can Make You Laugh

Laughing makes you feel good, it relaxes you, and it can be just what you need after a long day. If you aren’t with someone who can make you laugh or who shares your sense of humor, the relationship can get boring fast. However, it’s hard to find someone who can make you laugh in the face of stress, but when you do, you know you’re close to finding a keeper.

4. They’re Different Enough

Although you want to find a partner who shares your interests, you also want to find a partner who’s different from you, at least a little bit.

Having someone in your life who challenges you to try new things keeps the relationship exciting. If you’re dating an exact replica of yourself, it can start out great, but get incredibly boring within a few months.

5. They’re Supportive but Independent

You want to find someone who supports your career and life goals, but you also want to find a partner who has their independence.

Sure, you may share some similarities, but it’s perfectly normal to be with someone who has their own hopes and dreams independent of your own. The only time this is a problem is when they crush your dreams in order to reach their own.

6. They Communicate

Communication is the key to a healthy, long-lasting relationship. If you’re with someone who can communicate, they’re worth keeping around simply for that reason. Being able to express one’s emotions is difficult, which is why it’s important to practice when you get the chance. Communication will keep things from getting bottled up, and it will keep fights from erupting out of nowhere.

Any relationship will inevitably reach a point that’s difficult. All relationships take work as they develop, grow, and change as the people involved in them change. If two people aren’t willing to work toward their future together, the relationship won’t last. Couples are often too worried about whether or not they’ll have to endure hard times, when they should be worried about how they’ll react when those hard times undoubtedly hit.

If you’re in a relationship that’s hit a rough stretch, you need to first decide if it’s worth working through. When you make the decision to work toward a brighter future, it helps to know what to say to your partner. The right words can make all the difference in regards to saving, fixing, or even just maintaining a healthy relationship. Here are six things you should tell your partner.

1. Thank You

Gratitude is everything in a relationship. Even when a relationship is at its best, each person involved will be doing things for the other in a display of affection. Those displays will eventually become less frequent if no gratitude is given, which is why saying thank you can make all the difference in the world.

Next time your partner does something for you, even when it seems insignificant, say thank you.

2. I’m Sorry

One of the hardest things people can do is admit when they’re wrong or when they’ve made a mistake. Don’t let pride get in the way of a relationship that could otherwise stand the test of time.

Simply saying sorry when you’ve screwed up can change your partner’s mood and make them more forgiving in the future. It will also end arguments that put unnecessary strain on a relationship more quickly.

3. I’m Proud

Your partner wants to know that you’re proud to be with them.

When your partner feels valued, they have the motivation to work harder in the relationship no matter the issue. Make sure that you’re being specific when you tell your partner that you’re proud of them; if you’re proud of what they do around the house, how hard they work or provide, or for any other reason, make sure you say why specifically.

4. I’m Making More of an Effort

Let your partner know that you’re working hard to give them what they want. If your partner takes the time to address an issue they’ve been having, you owe it to them to make the effort to fix it. If your partner wants you to do more around the house, try to clean up after yourself, help during meal times, or organize cluttered areas, let them know you’re trying.

5. What Do You Need?

When your partner has been having a rough day or week, let them know you’re willing to do what you can to help.

Simply asking your partner what they need can go a long way. It’s not so much the act of physically doing something, but the fact that you’re there for them when they need an extra hand. If your partner does mention something you can do, make sure you do it as soon as possible.

6. I Love You

These three simple words will say it all. If you feel genuine, real love for your partner, you can’t express those feelings enough. Saying I love you will make your partner feel like the work they do for the relationship is all worth it. If you feel it, say it, and say it often.

Success is sought after by many. Some people even achieve successful by telling others how to be successful. Many buy self-help books, read origin stories of some of the most wealthy and famous, and others even attend seminars that promise to help them achieve their own success. We are so enamored with the idea of achieving success that we ask successful people almost every question in the book. One thing you may not think about, however, is what a successful person does before they go to bed.

It turns out that successful people have bedtime rituals just like the average person, and they’re actually quite interesting. If you want to find out what some successful people do before they hit the sack, take a look at these five habits, you might just want to switch up your nighttime routine.

1. They Relax

Successful people don’t work before they go to bed.

In fact, many of them ensure that they have enough time to unwind before lights out so that their minds can relax. What they do specifically to relax is irrelevant, what’s important is that they make the time to do it.

If you want to be successful, give your brain time to relax.

2. They Read

Behavioral experts have found that many successful people read right before going to sleep.

Not only does reading give the mind time to relax, but it also distracts you from your responsibilities. For successful people, stress is a regular occurrence; it’s important to fight the negative effects of stress each day.

3. They Plan

Sometimes, people have trouble sleeping when they’re too worried about what they have to do the next day. Successful people take the time to plan ahead, even just half a day in advance, in order to keep their minds from running wild.

In your head, your responsibilities can seem overwhelming, but if you write those responsibilities down, they become clearer and easier to handle.

4. They Disconnect

Being successful means being reachable; successful people have to be ready when an opportunity strikes.

They often check their emails, phone messages, or catch up on the news throughout the day. When it comes to bedtime though, these successful people disconnect from technology and the outside world. Phones on airplane mode, laptops shut, and tablets put to sleep.

5. They Don’t Drink

This doesn’t mean that successful people abstain from alcohol completely, but many don’t drink right before going to sleep. Alcohol has a negative impact on the quality of sleep a person gets throughout the night. The National Institute of Health claims that consuming alcohol before going to bed keeps a person in the lighter stages of their sleep cycle, making REM sleep harder to achieve.

I’ve been called an old soul many times throughout my life. Eventually, I stopped worrying about what exactly that meant, and started learning why people say that about me through my experiences with others. I learned most about what makes me an old soul through my romantic relationships and how I interact with the people in my life who mean the most to me at the time.

I learned that being an old soul is awesome, really. Not only do we make it easy for people to be attracted to us, but we also make it easy for people to be in a serious relationship with us as well. Here are five important things to know when you’re dating an old soul.

1. A Relationship with an Old Soul is Simple

The simplest things in life capture us as old souls.

We don’t care about the extravagant lifestyles that some people want to live, we don’t care about how much money you have, and we don’t care about going out to a fancy dinner every night, we just want you around. What’s important to us is the time we have to spend with our partners, not how we spend that time. If you’re around, that’s good enough for us.

2. We Need Alone Time

This can turn people off sometimes, but it really has nothing to with anyone but ourselves. Old souls understand the importance of self-reflection, which means that we may have to turn down a trip to the bar every now and again.

Our path in life is important to us, and we have to spend the necessary time to reflect on that path by ourselves. Don’t take our absence or desire to be alone personally, we’ll hang out next time.

3. Old Souls Are Romantics

If you’ve dated an old soul before, you already know we’re romantic.

Sure, relationships with us are simple, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have a desire for romance. The thing is, romance isn’t difficult, it just takes some thought and some time. If you aren’t willing to put in the effort to be romantic, we’re going to think the reason why is that you just aren’t into it.

4. We’re All Dreamers

Most people only dream when they sleep, but we dream almost constantly. In school, we’re the students who are constantly being told to pay attention or to stop staring out the window.

Having a partner can help us get back to reality when we need to, but a partner worth staying with will understand that dreaming is a part of our lives; it’s what we do.

5. Our Approach to Life is Unorthodox

Old souls don’t have the typical outlook on life that most people do. This can be discouraging for people in our relationships, but the right partner will like that we view life as a canvas that has yet to be painted. We’re philosophical, with deep feelings about our existence, and what that means to the people around us is everything.

Depression has its hold on millions of people worldwide. According to the World Health Organization, or WHO, it’s estimated that depression cripples 350 million people around the globe. During the winter, this number rises as people fall victim to seasonal affective disorder as a result of less exposure to the sun.

Depression sets in with little warning, making it difficult to overcome. Though, if you know you’re at risk for depression, there are signs you can be aware of that will help you avoid it completely. The symptoms of depression are always treatable if you’re willing to seek help, and it’s important to understand you can get better. Here are six signs you’re falling into depression.

1. You Overeat, or Don’t Eat at All

Changes in your diet are a good indicator something is going on. If you’re overeating on a regular basis, it could be your body’s way of coping with stress, less dopamine in the body, or a lack of sleep; all stemming from the onset of depression.

If you’ve lost your appetite completely, it could be because your mind is responding to depression as if the body was physically ill.

2. You Can’t Sleep

Not being able to sleep is extremely common amongst people suffering from depression. Unfortunately, a lack of sleep stimulates the stress hormone in the body and just makes everything that much worse. Professionals believe that if insomnia is treated in adults with depression, the rest of their symptoms would decrease drastically.

3. You’re Increasingly Isolated

If you find yourself isolating yourself or spending time alone more often, you could be suffering from depression.

When you’re depressed, you don’t want to spend much time around other people. This is because socializing feels useless; people suffering from depression don’t believe they can connect with those around them or be understood.

4. You Have Stomach Issues or Headaches

Migraines and depression aren’t normally thought of as connected, but both health issues are responsive to the same medications. About 40 percent of people with migraines also suffer from depression, which is a statistic too large to ignore. The stomach is also directly related to brain health, which is why depression can lead to digestive concerns.

5. Focusing is Difficult

Having trouble focusing or paying attention to others is an indicator of depression.

It’s often described as a fog within your brain that makes every aspect of cognitive reasoning difficult. You can’t remember things, listen to others for extended periods of time, or really do anything else. If you notice any of these things in your everyday life, you might be suffering from depression.

6. You Feel Tired

Although you may have trouble sleeping or staying asleep, you might find that you’re tired all the time. A lack of energy is a huge warning sign of depression; it can make it difficult to do the things you’re normally interested in. However, this symptom of depression can be counteracted through a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water, and socializing even when you don’t want to.