Positive Vibes
Daily positive vibes

Any relationship will inevitably reach a point that’s difficult. All relationships take work as they develop, grow, and change as the people involved in them change. If two people aren’t willing to work toward their future together, the relationship won’t last. Couples are often too worried about whether or not they’ll have to endure hard times, when they should be worried about how they’ll react when those hard times undoubtedly hit.

If you’re in a relationship that’s hit a rough stretch, you need to first decide if it’s worth working through. When you make the decision to work toward a brighter future, it helps to know what to say to your partner. The right words can make all the difference in regards to saving, fixing, or even just maintaining a healthy relationship. Here are six things you should tell your partner.

1. Thank You

Gratitude is everything in a relationship. Even when a relationship is at its best, each person involved will be doing things for the other in a display of affection. Those displays will eventually become less frequent if no gratitude is given, which is why saying thank you can make all the difference in the world.

Next time your partner does something for you, even when it seems insignificant, say thank you.

2. I’m Sorry

One of the hardest things people can do is admit when they’re wrong or when they’ve made a mistake. Don’t let pride get in the way of a relationship that could otherwise stand the test of time.

Simply saying sorry when you’ve screwed up can change your partner’s mood and make them more forgiving in the future. It will also end arguments that put unnecessary strain on a relationship more quickly.

3. I’m Proud

Your partner wants to know that you’re proud to be with them.

When your partner feels valued, they have the motivation to work harder in the relationship no matter the issue. Make sure that you’re being specific when you tell your partner that you’re proud of them; if you’re proud of what they do around the house, how hard they work or provide, or for any other reason, make sure you say why specifically.

4. I’m Making More of an Effort

Let your partner know that you’re working hard to give them what they want. If your partner takes the time to address an issue they’ve been having, you owe it to them to make the effort to fix it. If your partner wants you to do more around the house, try to clean up after yourself, help during meal times, or organize cluttered areas, let them know you’re trying.

5. What Do You Need?

When your partner has been having a rough day or week, let them know you’re willing to do what you can to help.

Simply asking your partner what they need can go a long way. It’s not so much the act of physically doing something, but the fact that you’re there for them when they need an extra hand. If your partner does mention something you can do, make sure you do it as soon as possible.

6. I Love You

These three simple words will say it all. If you feel genuine, real love for your partner, you can’t express those feelings enough. Saying I love you will make your partner feel like the work they do for the relationship is all worth it. If you feel it, say it, and say it often.

Success is sought after by many. Some people even achieve successful by telling others how to be successful. Many buy self-help books, read origin stories of some of the most wealthy and famous, and others even attend seminars that promise to help them achieve their own success. We are so enamored with the idea of achieving success that we ask successful people almost every question in the book. One thing you may not think about, however, is what a successful person does before they go to bed.

It turns out that successful people have bedtime rituals just like the average person, and they’re actually quite interesting. If you want to find out what some successful people do before they hit the sack, take a look at these five habits, you might just want to switch up your nighttime routine.

1. They Relax

Successful people don’t work before they go to bed.

In fact, many of them ensure that they have enough time to unwind before lights out so that their minds can relax. What they do specifically to relax is irrelevant, what’s important is that they make the time to do it.

If you want to be successful, give your brain time to relax.

2. They Read

Behavioral experts have found that many successful people read right before going to sleep.

Not only does reading give the mind time to relax, but it also distracts you from your responsibilities. For successful people, stress is a regular occurrence; it’s important to fight the negative effects of stress each day.

3. They Plan

Sometimes, people have trouble sleeping when they’re too worried about what they have to do the next day. Successful people take the time to plan ahead, even just half a day in advance, in order to keep their minds from running wild.

In your head, your responsibilities can seem overwhelming, but if you write those responsibilities down, they become clearer and easier to handle.

4. They Disconnect

Being successful means being reachable; successful people have to be ready when an opportunity strikes.

They often check their emails, phone messages, or catch up on the news throughout the day. When it comes to bedtime though, these successful people disconnect from technology and the outside world. Phones on airplane mode, laptops shut, and tablets put to sleep.

5. They Don’t Drink

This doesn’t mean that successful people abstain from alcohol completely, but many don’t drink right before going to sleep. Alcohol has a negative impact on the quality of sleep a person gets throughout the night. The National Institute of Health claims that consuming alcohol before going to bed keeps a person in the lighter stages of their sleep cycle, making REM sleep harder to achieve.

I’ve been called an old soul many times throughout my life. Eventually, I stopped worrying about what exactly that meant, and started learning why people say that about me through my experiences with others. I learned most about what makes me an old soul through my romantic relationships and how I interact with the people in my life who mean the most to me at the time.

I learned that being an old soul is awesome, really. Not only do we make it easy for people to be attracted to us, but we also make it easy for people to be in a serious relationship with us as well. Here are five important things to know when you’re dating an old soul.

1. A Relationship with an Old Soul is Simple

The simplest things in life capture us as old souls.

We don’t care about the extravagant lifestyles that some people want to live, we don’t care about how much money you have, and we don’t care about going out to a fancy dinner every night, we just want you around. What’s important to us is the time we have to spend with our partners, not how we spend that time. If you’re around, that’s good enough for us.

2. We Need Alone Time

This can turn people off sometimes, but it really has nothing to with anyone but ourselves. Old souls understand the importance of self-reflection, which means that we may have to turn down a trip to the bar every now and again.

Our path in life is important to us, and we have to spend the necessary time to reflect on that path by ourselves. Don’t take our absence or desire to be alone personally, we’ll hang out next time.

3. Old Souls Are Romantics

If you’ve dated an old soul before, you already know we’re romantic.

Sure, relationships with us are simple, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have a desire for romance. The thing is, romance isn’t difficult, it just takes some thought and some time. If you aren’t willing to put in the effort to be romantic, we’re going to think the reason why is that you just aren’t into it.

4. We’re All Dreamers

Most people only dream when they sleep, but we dream almost constantly. In school, we’re the students who are constantly being told to pay attention or to stop staring out the window.

Having a partner can help us get back to reality when we need to, but a partner worth staying with will understand that dreaming is a part of our lives; it’s what we do.

5. Our Approach to Life is Unorthodox

Old souls don’t have the typical outlook on life that most people do. This can be discouraging for people in our relationships, but the right partner will like that we view life as a canvas that has yet to be painted. We’re philosophical, with deep feelings about our existence, and what that means to the people around us is everything.

Depression has its hold on millions of people worldwide. According to the World Health Organization, or WHO, it’s estimated that depression cripples 350 million people around the globe. During the winter, this number rises as people fall victim to seasonal affective disorder as a result of less exposure to the sun.

Depression sets in with little warning, making it difficult to overcome. Though, if you know you’re at risk for depression, there are signs you can be aware of that will help you avoid it completely. The symptoms of depression are always treatable if you’re willing to seek help, and it’s important to understand you can get better. Here are six signs you’re falling into depression.

1. You Overeat, or Don’t Eat at All

Changes in your diet are a good indicator something is going on. If you’re overeating on a regular basis, it could be your body’s way of coping with stress, less dopamine in the body, or a lack of sleep; all stemming from the onset of depression.

If you’ve lost your appetite completely, it could be because your mind is responding to depression as if the body was physically ill.

2. You Can’t Sleep

Not being able to sleep is extremely common amongst people suffering from depression. Unfortunately, a lack of sleep stimulates the stress hormone in the body and just makes everything that much worse. Professionals believe that if insomnia is treated in adults with depression, the rest of their symptoms would decrease drastically.

3. You’re Increasingly Isolated

If you find yourself isolating yourself or spending time alone more often, you could be suffering from depression.

When you’re depressed, you don’t want to spend much time around other people. This is because socializing feels useless; people suffering from depression don’t believe they can connect with those around them or be understood.

4. You Have Stomach Issues or Headaches

Migraines and depression aren’t normally thought of as connected, but both health issues are responsive to the same medications. About 40 percent of people with migraines also suffer from depression, which is a statistic too large to ignore. The stomach is also directly related to brain health, which is why depression can lead to digestive concerns.

5. Focusing is Difficult

Having trouble focusing or paying attention to others is an indicator of depression.

It’s often described as a fog within your brain that makes every aspect of cognitive reasoning difficult. You can’t remember things, listen to others for extended periods of time, or really do anything else. If you notice any of these things in your everyday life, you might be suffering from depression.

6. You Feel Tired

Although you may have trouble sleeping or staying asleep, you might find that you’re tired all the time. A lack of energy is a huge warning sign of depression; it can make it difficult to do the things you’re normally interested in. However, this symptom of depression can be counteracted through a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water, and socializing even when you don’t want to.

Getting a good night’s sleep is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Sleep is also consistently and increasingly recognized as important to public health. Insufficient sleep can be linked to automobile accidents, industrial disasters, or other occupational hazards, which is why the importance of sleep always seems to be stressed.

According the United States’ leading public health organizations, sleep, or lack there of, is considered a public concern and epidemic. Unfortunately, the number of people who suffer from insufficient sleep is rising. Despite the amount of research that backs these organizations’ claims, there are plenty of people who think minimal sleep is no big deal.

If you want to live a healthier, safer lifestyle, you need to more sleep. Take a look at these four things you should never do before you go to sleep, if you want to get enough.

1. Get on Social Media

Updating your status on Facebook, adding that picture to Instagram, or snapchatting your friends are all included. Smartphones and computer monitors stimulate the brain, which is the opposite of what you want to do when you’re getting ready to go to bed.

These devices produce blue light, which can interrupt the body’s sleep/wake cycle, or circadian rhythm. Leave your phone alone until morning.

2. Eat Sugary, Fatty, or Spicy Foods

The more sugar or fat we have in our bodies, the more energy our bodies need to burn in order to get rid of the excess calories. Eating these foods before we sleep just makes it harder to do so, and it forces our bodies to store the calories for later, producing fat. Spicy foods can cause acid reflux, which will only get worse while laying down.

3. Drink or Eat Caffeine

Caffeine is highly stimulating, as most of us know, and has the power to keep us awake much longer than we want. Caffeine is one of the most addictive substances out there, and it needs to be consumed in moderation.

Even decaffeinated coffee has traces of caffeine, although it’s a much smaller amount than a normal cup, it can still keep you awake.

4. Not Having a Bedtime Routine

Routines get our bodies used to a specific time. For instance, if you always do the same things before you go to bed in the same order, your body will already be aware that it’s time to go to sleep. You might even feel yourself getting tired while you’re brushing your teeth or reading a book. If you’re having trouble falling asleep, find a routine that works for you.

0 2103

There are a number of personality tests you can take, but the simplest one has to do with color. The colors we’re drawn to can actually say a lot about who we are as human beings. Specific colors convey specific moods, feelings, and other personality characteristics that can be scary accurate individually.

Take a look at the colors, what they mean, and see if your favorite color matches up with your personality. Then, take the quiz at the bottom of the article to discover what color your personality truly is!

Purple

Individuals attracted to the color purple are sensitive and emotional. These people are creators, artists, and dreamers who enjoy spending time with themselves. Imagination plays a large role in the everyday lives, and they tend to go off into their own world during conversations.

This isn’t because they don’t care or aren’t interested, but because their minds never stop churning. They will listen to a friend for hours, and always be there to help.

Blue

Those attracted to blue are romantic. Their ideals are incredibly important to them and they are rarely shaken. The state of the modern world appalls them, so personal faith and hope are essential for getting through life. These people are kind hearted, sincere, sympathetic, and they strive to create as much good in the world as possible.

Although they’re sensitive, they don’t like showing it to others. Their connections to nature run deep, especially when it comes to water.

Green

Individuals drawn to green are also drawn to nature. They approach life sensibly and have an endless curiosity that’s never satisfied. Travel is a major aspect of their lives and their need for exploration knows no bounds. Green is associated with philosophy, which means these people are highly intellectual and enjoy thought-provoking conversations. The people who understand their sarcastic humor and uninhibited honesty will be their friends for life.

Red

People who associate with red are fiery, dominant, and full of passion. They have an immense amount of confidence and ambition, which serves them well no matter what they pursue in life.

They are always surrounded by numerous friends, but only a few they consider to be close. Loyalty means a great deal, and they will always be there for a friend of family member. These people never quit without a fight.

Orange

These people are playful, energetic, and almost childlike when it comes to their personalities. Their high energy allows them to enjoy an active lifestyle, but if they aren’t able to release their energy, they can be a lot to handle. They give naturally and selflessly, which means they’re always there when you need them. Not only do they listen well, but they speak well too, and they enjoy being in the spotlight. A career in performance is usually what they’re drawn to.

Yellow

Those who associate with yellow are bubbly and optimistic when it comes to looking at life. It takes a lot for these people to be down because they always look at things in a positive light. Negativity doesn’t bother these people because they have their own way of believing in themselves and others. They like to help in any way that they can, even if that means just being an encouraging voice in the background.

We always think we understand our friends perfectly, but sometimes, we really don’t. If you’ve ever had a close friend develop romantic feelings for you, you understand how tricky a situation like this can be. Not only is it hard to admit that we were unaware of a close friend’s feelings, but it’s also hard to address those feelings in the open without ruining the relationship.

The problem is that emotions are difficult to decode, especially when somebody else is actively trying to suppress or keep them secret. In the case of a close friendship, it becomes even more difficult as emotions like love are normally accepted. However, there are five key signs that can tell you whether or not your friend has a crush.

1. They Imitate You

Imitation is a form of synchronization, and it’s one of the strongest indicators of attraction.

Imitation has been studied countless times by psychologists, and all tend to agree that it’s one of the most common mechanisms of attraction. If you notice your friend copying your body language or behavior, it’s not to be ignored.

2. They Avoid You in Public

If you’re hanging out with your friends in a group, but one friend in particular seems to avoid you, it could be an indication of a crush. A good test is to hang out with this friend one-on-one, and see if they go back to behaving normally. They might just want to avoid any suspicion had by anybody else around.

3. They Constantly Make Physical Contact

If you notice that your friend is constantly making contact with you or keep the space between you at a minimum, it’s a good guess they have a crush.

Friends nudge and touch each other all the time, but you’ll be able to notice if it’s more than normal. This could manifest itself in a number of ways, including very subtly.

4. They Always Laugh at Your Jokes

You can’t be funny all the time, which is why somebody laughing at every joke you tell is a sign of attraction. As with most things on this list so far, frequency is a pretty major indicator of attraction no matter what’s being done. Try telling a joke you don’t think is funny and see how your friend reacts to it.

5. They’re Concerned with Appearance Around You

This is a fairly obvious way to tell if your friend is into you.

If they take a long time to get ready or seem to care about their physical appearance more than usual, they probably like you. Simply knowing you’re going to be somewhere can be enough to get them looking their best. Pay attention next time you’re out somewhere with your group of friends.

An earth angel is someone who values love and harmony above all else. They help others find the best versions of themselves in this lifetime, and their selflessness knows no bounds. These people often describe themselves as old souls who have come to restore the planet back to balance. They connect with nature more so than with anything else, and they feel at peace around animals.

Earth angels associate with a time when humanity lived with the planet rather than on it, and because of this, they often get frustrated with the current state of affairs. They want to help move past heartache and live in harmony with all people, as well as protect the planet itself. If you think you might be an earth angel, here are five signs you could be right.

1. You Care for Others

Earth angels often forget to make time for themselves because of how much they care for others. Although they cherish their alone time when they have it, they often feel called to help the people around them, which makes it difficult to accept the alone time they need.

They are highly empathetic, meaning they can feel other peoples’ emotions, which attracts them to professional positions formed to help those in need.

2. You Need Alone Time

Earth angels rarely give themselves alone time, but they need it desperately.

Since they are extremely empathetic, they feel a rush of emotions throughout the day. This much emotion can be draining both mentally and physically, so being alone is essential in order for earth angels to recharge.

Much of their alone time is spent in nature as it speeds up the healing process and gets their spirits back in alignment with what’s important.

3. Your Intuition is Powerful

Being an earth angel means you feel more than you think, making intuition and emotion more powerful than logical reasoning. Earth angels feel more deeply than most people, which means that they don’t really connect with the way the modern world works.

Art, music, and stories make lasting impressions their lives, and they let that kind of emotion guide their every move.

4. You Reject Modern Society

Modern society, to an earth angel, seems completely nonsensical; they don’t place much value on money, a career, or being successful on a surface level. They don’t understand why people would work in careers that they hate in order to buy or live a lifestyle that they don’t actually need.

What’s important to an earth angel is what humanity seems to have lost since the birth of industry, technology, and nine-to-five living.

5. You Feel Called

Since earth angels have a strong sense of intuition and emotion, they often feel called to a specific purpose.

No matter what this purpose is, it usually involves helping others as much as possible. Making their own mark on the world is infinitely more important than following in somebody else’s footsteps, no matter the advice they receive. Many earth angels see themselves as healers, so they are prone to industries like nursing or social counseling.

0 3467

When a relationship ends, it can be incredibly difficult. The pain you feel when you break up with your partner, or when your partner breaks up with you, is real. Scientists at Columbia University have researched what happens to the brain after a breakup, and it functions exactly the same as it would during an experience of physical pain on the body.

Using fMRI technology, they observed the brain’s response to college students who were showed pictures of their recent ex-partners. The part of the brain that reacts to physical pain lit up during imaging!

If you’ve experienced a recent breakup, remember these three things that will help you come to terms with your current situation, and move forward.

1. You’re Worthy

It’s both natural and common to wonder what you personally did wrong to cause a recent breakup. Usually, a breakup isn’t about any one particular situation, which then leads the brain to question your adequacy as a way to make up for the lack of an answer.

Relationships teach us just as much about ourselves as they do other people. Once we get over the initial pain of loss, we know that we’re worth more than the relationship that recently ended.

Instead of focusing on what you might have done wrong to cause the end, think about what you learned throughout the process, and what the end means for your future.

2. Don’t Substitute the Loss

The pain you feel after a breakup is real, and it’s profound. It can make you reach for things in your life that you’ve never felt the need to reach for before. The fact is, healing takes time, and that time needs to be spent alone.

If you immediately rush into another relationship, you aren’t giving yourself enough time to learn from the relationship you were just in; you’re doomed to make the same mistakes you made a short while ago.

Pain has the power to make you think you want something when you really don’t, even when it comes to people.

Don’t make a mistake because you’re in pain, you might just add to it.

3. You Get to Restart

It’s hard not to think of the end, but with every end comes a new beginning. Focus on the fact that you get to try things differently the next time.

Being alone gives you the time you need to get reacquainted with yourself, learn from your mistakes, and become a better person. In a sense, you get to push the restart button.

There are few instances in life that allow us to restart with more knowledge; relationships are one of them. You can mess up on a test in school or a responsibility at work that will make you wish you could redo something with the power of hindsight, but you can’t. Take advantage of what a relationship allows you to do in the future, not what it doesn’t allow you to do at the end.

I can remember when I was young that my mom would continuously tell me to stay positive. I didn’t understand why it was so important at the time, but she would always explain that keeping a positive attitude and outlook on life would help me get through each day. No matter what hardships I faced, staying positive would help get through it. When I see the impact that being negative has on a person’s life now that I’m older, I can see why she felt so strongly.

There are some pretty major differences between positive and negative people, and they become more evident the more you pay attention. Check out these five differences to see if you need an attitude adjustment.

1. Positive People Look on the Bright Side, Negative People Complain

If you’re a positive person, looking on the bright side of every situation comes naturally, but a negative person’s first instinct is to complain.

There is always a bright side to a situation, no matter how unfortunate it seems at first. Take the time to figure out how you can learn and grow from an experience instead of dwelling on how terrible it is. Complaining gets you nowhere.

2. Positive People Accept Responsibility, Negative People Pass the Blame

Positive people are always willing to accept the responsibility that comes with their actions. That’s because they want to figure out what went wrong and how they can improve in the future.

Negative people are ready to pass the blame to pretty much anyone nearby. By not taking responsibility for a mistake or decision, they don’t have to learn from the consequences, which means they never improve.

3. Positive People Accept Change, Negative People Don’t Want to Adapt

Change is something that happens throughout our lives whether we want it to or not.

Sure, it can be avoided for a time, but it’s going to happen either way. Positive people understand and accept this, negative people will put off change for as long as possible. Change is a good thing; it means we’re able to adapt to a new environment, meet new people, or start a new job. Don’t avoid it, embrace it.

4. Positive People Can Let Things Go, Negative People Dwell on the Past

We can’t hold onto things forever. At some point, we need to bring the focus back to ourselves and the present in order to let go and move on. This is a major difference between positive and negative people because it causes so much unnecessary stress in a person’s life.

Positive people let go of the past because they can better themselves from a bad experience, but negative people simply dwell on their mistakes without accepting them.

5. Positive People Are Grateful, Negative People Take it All for Granted

Positive people are always grateful because they think of the things that they have, not what they want. Negative people take what they have for granted because they think they need something else that’s better. Take stock of what you have for a change, it might surprise just how awesome your life really is.