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Personal authenticity is a life decision. It’s the decision you make when you know yourself, when you know what you stand for and how you want to live your life. It involves self-knowledge, moral integrity, and a commitment to the values that make you who you are as a person. This decision has the power to weed out the unimportant people in your life and show you who is worth keeping around. It’s a decision that not everyone in your life will be on board for; it’s intimidating.

Authenticity is a personality trait that’s hard to find in today’s society. People spend a ludicrous amount of time pretending to be someone they’re not for the sake of outside perception.

However, these people have no idea who they actually are, what they stand for or why, and most importantly, they don’t know who they want to be. Here are four signs that you or someone you’re around is authentic.

1. Integrity

An authentic person will always choose to live according to his or her values. They’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what’s important in life, and they plan on sticking to it.

Someone who is willing to give up on their ideas or values easily isn’t authentic, and they haven’t taken the time to consider what they really care about. When you have integrity, you’re going to upset some people around you; they don’t realize they’re upset simply because they want to be the same way.

2. Courage

Being authentic takes courage. The amount of people who are authentic in the world today is astronomically small, which means if you’re authentic, you swim against the current.

Not only is this challenging, but it’s scary as well. It takes a great deal of courage not only to follow your own values, but to also know yourself as you truly are. Without courage, you can’t live the way you know is right.

3. Introspection

In order to be authentic, you have to know yourself.

This is a learning exercise that lasts a lifetime, but it needs to start as soon as possible. Being authentic takes a great deal of self-reflection, self-knowledge, and understanding.

After all, how can you be authentic without knowing who you are? Take a look at yourself with honesty and open eyes; figure out who you are, what’s important, and what you care about in order to be yourself.

4. Acceptance

Lastly, if you want to be authentic, you have to accept who you are.

In fact, the more willing you are to accept your true self, the less willing you are to pass judgement onto others. When we condemn others, we’re really condemning ourselves through the failures of someone else; judging others says more about yourself than it does the other person. Authentic people who accept the people they are, will always be willing to accept others.

An empath is a person who feels the world around them. Their emotions are not entirely their own, and they can feel the pain of those around them. Even something as small as a negative photograph is enough to deeply affect an empath. If you have an empath as a friend, or maybe you believe you’re an empath, you’ve probably noticed some of these things already.

Empaths have a greater understanding of the world around them than most people. It’s because of this understanding that people naturally gravitate to them for company. They achieve happiness through healing and helping others, which makes them the ideal companion. Here are five things you’re likely to notice if you’re in the presence of an empath.

1. They Don’t Tolerate Dishonesty

Empaths can see right through you most of the time.

If you’ve lied to an empath, you probably found out the hard way that it doesn’t really work. Not only will they be able to feel what you’re feeling (discomfort when it comes to lying), but due to their capacity for understanding, they can spot a lie pretty quickly.

2. Crowds are Overwhelming

If you’re an empath, you probably avoid crowds as much as you can. Even going to a concert can seem more like a chore than a good time.

Since empaths feel the energies of the people around them, crowds can be extremely overwhelming or emotional. Not only are there too many people, but there are too many emotions in one place; it can be exhausting.

3. They’re Happy When They’re Helping

Empaths want to help others in need. Healing is one of the ways empaths achieve happiness in life, and it isn’t uncommon to find an empath working in the medical field, such as nursing.

When an empath heals or helps a person through a troubling time, it’s almost like they are helping themselves. When a person is no longer experiencing pain, either is the empath.

4. They’re Authentic

Empaths have an authentic personality; they can’t be anyone but themselves. Empaths are honest, true, and loyal, which makes them the perfect friend or person to confide within. They accept who they are and have known exactly who that is from an early age. You won’t find a more authentic person to be around.

5. They Love Animals

Empaths have a special connection with animals. You might notice it around an aggressive dog who suddenly calms down, or you might even notice it when wild animals don’t run away. When an empath sees an animal, they see innocence and purity; it’s a refreshing experience compared to how they feel around most humans.

Finding “the one” is undeniably difficult. Everyone wants to know if who they’re with is the right person for them, but most importantly, they want to be able to know for sure. As it turns out, science might be able to provide an answer when it comes to find your soulmate, and it has to do with actual, physical signs felt by the body. Feeling butterflies in your stomach when you’re around the person you love might actually be a good indicator, according to science.

As was stated before, there are some physical signs that they body will experience when you find “the one.” These signs might vary from person to person, but generally everyone will be able to experience them when they’re with the right person. Here are six signs that you’ve found the person who’s right for you.

1. You Feel Optimistic

If you’re in a relationship where you feel depressed, chances are that it isn’t the relationship for you.

The right person will make you feel optimistic in regards to the future; they support your hopes and dreams rather than push them to the side. Life is better when the glass is half full, and you want to be with someone who helps you see that.

2. You Feel Like Yourself

You can’t help but go through life putting up a front for people. Whether it’s your career or your personal life, you put of a façade to hide weaknesses around the people you don’t trust to the fullest extent. However, this shouldn’t be the case with your soulmate; you need to be able to be yourself. If you’re with someone who makes you feel like you, stick with them.

3. You Feel Healthy

If you’ve found the one, you’ll feel healthier overall.

You’ll have a better outlook on life, you’ll be able to express yourself emotionally through both good and bad times, and you’ll want to make smarter choices for the sake of longevity. These are all things that make your life healthier both mentally and physically.

4. You Feel Empathetic

Empathy is a sign that someone is extremely important to you. When your loved one hurts, you hurt too, which is a sign they’re the “the one.” You’ll know you’ve found the one when you can’t bear to see the hurt, no matter the reason. You’ll feel like trading places with them so that you can suffer in their stead.

5. You Feel Calm

When you’re in their presence, you’ll feel an overwhelming sense of calm. It won’t matter what you have to do the next day or even in the next moment, you’ll feel like things will work out the way they need to. This is something that people rarely experience in life, but something they look for forever.

If you’ve found it, keep it.

6. You Feel a Need

Strong emotions produce physical symptoms in the body, and when you feel a need to be around a person mentally, emotionally, and physically, you’ve found someone worth holding onto. Some people will tell you that you shouldn’t need anyone, but this is a different kind of need, almost like an ache; you don’t need anything specifically, just their presence.

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Emotional abuse is serious. It can be just as detrimental as physical abuse in a relationship, but with longer lasting wounds. Some people find themselves in emotionally abusive relationships without even realizing what’s happening, and that’s the problem.

Emotional abuse, if untreated, can leave mental scars that last for years. Some people never recover, and the baggage they carry because of their experiences end up affecting their future relationships as well. It’s important to be able to identify emotional abuse before it becomes a lasting problem. If you find yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s time to get out. Here are ten little known signs that emotional abuse is present in your relationship.

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Your partner becomes angry when you don’t answer their phone calls, text messages, or any other form of communication.

#2

They make you feel small or unimportant so as to keep the spotlight for themselves. If you care about a career or a goal, they’ll treat it as a hobby.

#3

Your partner doesn’t allow you to make your own decisions, they often pressure you into making the decision they think is the best.

#4

You are often accused of something you didn’t do. Anything that makes your partner unhappy, they will try to blame on you.

#5

Your partner doesn’t take into account your right to privacy. They often reveal private moments, fears, or insecurities with outside parties.

#6

When your partner doesn’t feel good, it’s your fault for not making them happy. You’re often told that you’re holding them back.

#7

They demand to be a part of all your plans; you have no alone time to yourself or with others.

#8

In public, your partner often criticizes you in small ways that only you could notice. Some of these ways include a disapproving glance, an eye roll, or something of the like.

#9

They never let you forget about mistakes you’ve made in the past. Embarrassing moments are always brought up in order to poke fun or have a laugh at your expense.

#10

You find yourself overworking on things that aren’t that important simply to avoid your partner’s disappointment. No matter how hard you work, it never seems to be enough.

If you notice any of these signs within your own relationship, it’s time to find a way out.

Little signs like this can have a hugely negative impact over time. No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone who is emotionally abusive; you have the right to find someone who allows you to be yourself, and who makes you happy.

When you enter into a relationship, you hope it’s with someone who can fulfill your needs emotionally, physically, and mentally. However, it’s difficult to have the self-awareness to know exactly what those needs are. Not only do you have to know your own needs, but you also have to know your partner.

Your partner’s zodiac sign can tell you a lot about what they need from you, and the best way to go about fulfilling those needs. Here’s how to know what your partner needs according to their zodiac sign.

Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

People who fall under this sign are said to have a number of different personality traits and are very complicated. They’re full of adventure and are always ready to take the next big trip. They enjoy deep conversations, but have a tough time laying all their emotions out on the table.

Pisces (Feb 19 – March 20)

Pisces are sensitive romantics. They enjoy the arts and expressing themselves creatively, which means they need a partner who enjoys those things as well. Due to their sensitive nature, they need emotional intimacy in their relationships, along with vulnerability.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries require honest above anything else. Communication is the key when in a relationship with someone who falls under this sign. Don’t hide anything from them and be willing to communicate when the relationship falls under tough times. They are bold, transparent, and they need someone who can tell it like it is.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

These people are the strong, silent type who will say everything is perfect on the surface. They don’t do well when it comes to expressing their feelings, so their partner needs to help them communicate how they feel. They need to feel comfortable in a relationship, and they can’t be pushed into anything.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Geminis have a tendency to lose track of their emotions and thoughts, which means they need someone to help them stay grounded. They can seem like flakes, but in reality, they have a ton of different interests that they just lose track of what they’re doing. Make sure that you keep things exciting for them while in a relationship.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Cancers give everything when it comes to their relationships. This includes the mind, body, soul, heart, home, clothing, and even the dog simply for the sake of their partner’s happiness. As their partner, you need to make sure that you don’t take advantage of their giving nature. Due to their nature, they have extremely high expectations of others, especially their partner’s.

Leo (July 23 – Aug 22)

Leos are confident and carefree, and they need a partner who also reflects this type of nature. They don’t do well in a relationship where they feel like they’re being held back from something important. Although they can come off as arrogant, they just have high expectations of themselves. They require serious relationships with serious intentions.

Virgo (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Virgos are analytical and logical when it comes to their relationships. Although they have a tender side, they rarely let the people around them see it. They need a partner who is emotionally available, but also someone who doesn’t let their emotions rule the show when it comes to making decisions.

Libra (Set 23 – Oct 22)

Libras have a very peaceful and balanced nature. They need to make sure that any relationship they are in will support this nature before considering anything serious. Equality is extremely important to people who fall under this sign, and that goes double for any romantic entanglements.

Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Scorpios are likely to have trust issues when it comes to their romantic relationships. If you’re the partner of a Scorpio, you need to be able to show that you’re trustworthy before anything gets too serious. If you don’t, be expected to be kept at an arm’s length. When they feel comfortable, they will open up.

Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

These people love adventure, they’re witty, and they’re philosophical. Due to their philosophical nature, they can feel lost at times, which is why they need a partner who will be able to comfort them when the time comes. Their emotions can flare easily, so they need someone to help keep them in check.

Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Capricorns are often seen as traditional. They are hardworking and determined to achieve their goals no matter what. They need a partner with a strong work ethic who understands when they stay at the office late and miss dinner. However, their partner also needs to be able to show them the benefits of slowing down and enjoying life in the present.

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Sensitivity and strength are not mutually exclusive. Many people believe that in order to be strong, you can’t be sensitive, and in order to be sensitive, you have to forgo those values that make you strong. However, there are many people out there who are both strong and sensitive, and who deal with complex emotions that often seem to fight each other in most situations.

If you’re both strong and sensitive, it can be hard to explain to the people around you how you feel. They don’t understand the onslaught of opposing emotions you feel on a regular basis. In fact, what you do might come as a shock to them; your sensitivity allows you to break down walls and limit the number of emotional boundaries you construct for protection, while having strength enables you to tackle challenges head on with little hesitation.

Here are seven daily struggles you, being both strong and sensitive, are likely to endure.

1. You Fixate on Decisions

You understand that your decisions carry weight, which means that they have the power to impact or influence someone else in your life. While part of you is telling you to make a decision, your sensitive side is worried about hurting someone close to you.

These conflicting feelings make deciding anything a chore, and it can also be extremely stressful.

2. People Don’t Know When You’re Upset

You don’t try to project a tough exterior to the people around you, but that’s just how your personality comes across. When you’re upset, most people probably don’t even realize it, which can make you feel alone when it comes to dealing with your emotions.

3. You Avoid Emotional Confrontation

Your strength allows you to appear confident during any emotionally challenging situation.

However, the sensitive side in you is hidden, taking things much more seriously. The people around you believe you have everything under control, but on the inside, you could be an emotional wreck and no one will ever see it.

4. You Can Dish it, But You Can’t Take it

As a strong person, you can make jokes and say things to your friends that might come across harsh, but it’s all in good fun. When you friends start to give it back, you take it personally.

Sometimes you’re able to keep your frustration inside, and other times you can’t. Your friends have probably noticed, and they might have even called you out.

5. You Stand Up for Your Friends

Standing up for your friends is a must, but you don’t afford yourself the same respect. When someone walks all over a loved one, you get upset and you do something about it. However, if the same thing happened to you, you might just shrug it off as if it isn’t as important.

6. You Imagine Confrontation

The sensitive side in you hates confrontation on any level, but the strong side yearns to take matters in a different direction. Due to the opposing emotions, you imagine confrontations in your head, playing through the possible scenarios.

However, these hardly ever play out in reality.

7. Most People Annoy You

Since most people don’t understand you, they’re annoying in your eyes. Some of the things you say or do may come off as harsh, but the people who know you the best know that you’re a great person at heart, and that your bark is worse than your bite.

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Narcissists always need to be at the center of everybody’s attention. They boast, they brag, and they tell exaggerated stories so that they can be at the forefront of peoples’ minds. What makes them worse, is that they’ve been working on their methods for years, which makes their lies harder to spot. They often mix full-blown lies with truths and half-truths so that they can get away with things more easily.

Narcissists have no capacity for empathy, understanding, or validation, but they’ve worked hard in order to fake it. If you’ve been around a narcissist before, you already know how infuriating it can be just to have a simple conversation; they couldn’t possibly care any less about what you’re saying. Here are four things that a narcissist will always do to be the center of attention.

1. They Play the Blame Game

Narcissists will never miss an opportunity to make someone look worse than they are. If a narcissist has the chance to make someone look bad, while elevating their own status in the process, they will always take it.

They constantly blame people for things that may not be their fault, and then when drama ensues, they’ll justify themselves by continuing to blame people for any issues that have occurred as a result.

2. They Reverse Roles

Narcissists are masters at conversation and manipulation; they understand just exactly how to twist a conversation around so that they look better in the eyes of people around them. Not only will they be able to turn the conversation, but they’ll be able to manipulate you into taking responsibility for the sudden and abrupt turn of events. Meanwhile, they look like the victim, and you’re left wondering what just happened.

3. They Play the Victim

Although narcissists don’t have the capacity for empathy or understanding, they don’t underestimate their power.

Usually, a narcissist will take underserved pity at the expense of another, who most likely deserves the pity in the first place. This is a classic manipulation tactic that narcissists spend their lives working to perfection.

4. They Interrupt

Since a narcissist has to be at the center of attention, they will interrupt any conversation that doesn’t pertain to them directly. Alternatively, if someone interrupts a narcissist in order to redirect the conversation, they will be rendered to silence as quickly as possible. If this fails, the narcissist will perceive this person to be a threat to the most important thing in the world: themselves.

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Intimate relationships are special because they’re intimate. As soon as you divulge certain aspects of your relationship to a third party, no matter how trustworthy you perceive them to be, that intimacy is diminished. The great thing about being in a serious, romantic relationship is that you share something special with just one other person, maybe even for life. Needless to say, there are certain things about a relationship that you should always keep secret.

Although there are things about a relationship that you can talk about with outside parties, you need to make sure that you aren’t hurting anyone’s feelings by doing so. Put yourself in the position of your partner; ask yourself if what you’re about to say would hurt your feelings if you found out your partner was saying the same thing.

Here are four things about your relationship you should always keep secret…

1. Anything Said in Confidence

This goes without saying, but it’s worth discussing nonetheless.

Anything that your partner says to you in confidence should never be talked about with anyone else. Your partner shouldn’t have to tell you not to say anything either, you should just be able to tell. Many things said in confidence are said in intimate situations, like when you’re alone in bed, which means they shouldn’t leave that moment. Use your best judgement.

2. Anything Regarding Sex

Although some people like to think sex is a casual topic, it really isn’t. When someone asks you about your sex life, they’re really just prying for the sake of their own curiosity, so don’t give them the satisfaction.

Sex is arguably one of the most intimate aspects of a relationship, and when you’re in love, it becomes even more important to keep it between you and your partner. Personally, I wouldn’t want my partner to divulge anything to anyone regarding what goes on in the bedroom.

3. Anything Financial

You and your partner’s current financial situation should always be kept under wraps. Money is something that you shouldn’t talk about at all, even if you’re single, but especially not if it involves somebody else.

Finance is private, which means you have no right to talk about it if it involves more than just yourself. Not only will it give people an intimate look at your private life, but it will also allow people to change their opinions about you and your partner, which is simply unfair.

4. Any Perceived Flaws

If you think your partner has some flaws, that’s for you to decide, not anyone else. Nobody is perfect, so it’s foolish to look for someone who is. However, relationships are about taking the good with the bad, and deciding whether or not you can accept somebody’s flaws for the sake of something more important: the connection. The flaws you perceive in your partner are extremely intimate, which means you should never point them out to someone else.

Everyone experiences headaches from time to time. Typically, headaches are nothing serious to worry about, but sometimes they can be the symptom of something more serious going on within our bodies. The misconception about headaches is that they’re all the same, but this couldn’t be less true. For example, someone could use the term migraine to describe a particularly painful headache, but it might not be a migraine at all.

Since all headaches are different, are all caused by different reasons, and can be the way our bodies tell us something serious is happening, it’s important to understand what types of headaches shouldn’t be ignored. For your own safety, here are four types of headaches that should never be ignored, and how they’ll feel when they strike.

1. Sinus Headache

Sinus headaches occur when the sinus cavities in your head become clogged. Sometimes they happen as a result of a sinus infection, which won’t go away on its own.

When you feel an immense amount of pressure in your teeth, along your cheekbones, or even above your eyes, you should go to the doctor to make sure you don’t have an infection. If you do, you’ll be prescribed antibiotics, which should clear the infection up in about a week.

2. Cluster Headache

This type of headache is extremely rare, and it only affects around 1 percent of the population. Cluster headaches occur around the same time every day, which means that the hypothalamus, the part of the brain that controls the body’s clock, is most likely involved.

This type of headache is excruciating, and are commonly caused by alcohol or regular smoking. Sometimes, medical professionals will use nerve blocks to help treat the pain.

3. Migraine Headache

Migraine headaches are more difficult to diagnose because people can mistake the pain for something else. Migraines are commonly associated with throbbing pain, light sensitivity, nausea, and vomiting.

They are classified as a neurological condition, and some people suffer from them on a regular basis. If you’ve had a migraine before, chances are you’ll have another in the future. If you suffer from migraines regularly, you need to see a doctor who can help you with prevention and care.

4. Sports Headache

Headaches that come as a result of sports are incredibly important; especially if you participate in a sport like football, which consists of physical contact. These headaches can feel like a tension or migraine type of headache, but they can vary from person to person. If you’re having headaches while or after playing sports, you need to seek medical attention before performing any more activity.

Spouses or significant others cheating on each other might sound like a normal occurrence, until it happens to you. According to the experts, most women cheat because they feel something lacking emotionally within their relationship, but men typically cheat because they feel something lacking physically. Regardless of motives, women and men cheat at about the same rate, which some people might find surprising.

What’s more interesting is that partners who tend to cheat are also more likely to be untrustworthy in other areas of the relationship. Covering up an affair leads to more and more lies, which then makes it easier to lie in general; the more a partner lies, the more he or she becomes comfortable doing it. The trick is finding a partner you know will never feel the need to cheat. Here are five signs he or she will never cheat.

1. They Keep You Informed

If you’re with someone who enjoys keeping you up to date on their life outside of the relationship, the chances that they cheat will be very small.

Dishonest people tend to share as little as possible in an attempt to minimize the risk that they give away too much. Sharing shows that your partner not only wants to include you in the little details of their life, but that they take pride in telling you as well.

2. Their Schedule is Full

When your partner is forced to juggle work, school, the relationship, and other responsibilities, you can rest easy that they don’t have time for an affair.

Affairs are like second relationships; although they might not be as in depth, they still take time and energy away from the other aspects of life. When your partner is busy, they don’t have time for another relationship, especially one that demands physical attention.

3. They’re Honest in Everything

It’s easy to tell if you’re with an honest partner; simply think back to when they told you they were going to do something.

If they keep their word in almost every aspect of the relationship, you can be pretty sure they aren’t sleeping around. As was stated before, if a partner is cheating, they tend to lie about other aspects of the relationship as well. Honest people are honest no matter the situation.

4. They Cut All Ties to Past Romances

Some people insist on staying in touch with past romantic partners, but this is just unnecessary. If your partner has cut all ties to past relationships, not only does it mean they’re serious, but it also means they’re going to stay faithful. Nothing good can come from staying in touch with past partners, and it will only serve to hurt your current partner’s feelings.

5. They Make Time for You

When your partner fights to make time with you, and actually comes through, you know you’re the only one on their mind. When a partner begins having an affair, it’s no secret that they’ll start spending less and less time with you. Your partner should always try to find a little extra time here and there, and if they do, they probably aren’t going to cheat.