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The term narcissist is rooted in Greek mythology, and it comes from the story of Narcissus. Narcissus literally fell in love with his own reflection, and it resulted in his demise. Freud used the term to describe people who seemed completely self-absorbed, and as a result, out of touch with reality. Narcissists aren’t uncommon in today’s society, especially with the rise of social media, which allows people to display even the most mundane aspects of everyday life, feeling more important than they really are.

Although there are many narcissists out there, not all of them are the same. In fact, there exists several different types of narcissists that you are likely to encounter at least once in your lifetime. This could a coworker, a significant other, a friend, or even a family member. Here are six different types of narcissists and what they’re all about.

1. The Victim

These narcissists are sneaky and often hard to identify, but they are also master manipulators. They use affection to feed their narcissism, and they seek for situations that allow them to be portrayed as the underdog. In order to do so effectively, they need to have their sob story perfected, and by the time you come into contact with them, they probably will.

A victim narcissist will never be responsible for their own misfortune.

2. The Puppet Master

These narcissists are controlling, and they can’t handle it when things don’t go according to plan. In order to control every situation, they’ve learned to manipulate anyone involved using a variety of different tactics.

They are extremely skilled when it comes to identifying a person’s weak spot, and they have absolutely no concept of empathy, integrity, or personal space. They don’t really have friends or even understand the relationship, which means they can easily set people against others.

3. The Winner

These narcissists will always try to place themselves above everyone else.

Feeling superior to others is how they feed their own self-image, which makes even the smallest of tasks a competition. This behavior is not confined to sports, achievements, or academics, but involves all things in life. Friendship, parenting, or even spirituality become competitions to these narcissists, and it’s dangerous to be around.

4. The Know-It-All

These narcissists believe that they are the most intelligent and most informed person in any situation. Their opinions become fact, no matter what evidence exists to prove them wrong, and no middle ground exists; you are either with them or completely against them.

They rarely take the time to listen to anyone else, and are considered to be extremely preachy. Perhaps one of the clearest identifiers this type of narcissist has is their willingness to provide unsolicited advice to the people around them.

5. The Antagonist

This type of narcissist will always have an enemy; they will scream at other drivers on the road, berate and criticize wait staff at restaurants, and leave notes for people who bother them.

They always believe that they are in the right, which justifies their taking action against someone else. This type of behavior makes it almost impossible for them to sustain healthy relationships, and they’ve probably had to quit jobs due to office disputes.

6. The Status-Absorbed

This type of narcissist is probably the type people are most familiar with, especially in this day and age where an online presence is important. These narcissists define their self-worth through the validation of others, and they have no internal sense of themselves. They put all their energy into accumulating money, power, and popularity, no matter how materialistic they have to be. This doesn’t just apply to themselves, but to others as well; you’re only as important as other people make you.

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There are a good deal of articles out there that discuss the various issues of being in a toxic relationship. Usually these issues apply to a romantic relationship and how to fix or walk away from it’s been accurately identified. However, there seems to be a lack of articles that discuss the struggles of those who find themselves in a toxic family situation.

The struggles you feel from a toxic family deserve their own attention. It’s not the same as being in a romantic relationship, and it’s certainly a situation that is infinitely harder to walk away from. Here are four serious struggles that people face when they find themselves in a toxic, familial setting.

1. Communication is Difficult

Children who grow up in a dysfunctional or toxic family situation understand that communication with others is difficult.

Children learn how to communicate and function in society healthily by learning lessons at home. If their parents and siblings are dysfunctional, their sense of normality is skewed from the beginning. They have to learn that what’s going on at home isn’t the norm.

2. Unnecessary Anxiety

If you don’t come from a dysfunctional family, try to put yourself in the shoes of someone who does.

You’re coming home from school, you have a lot of homework, a test to study for, and a paper that’s due in just a couple days. Not only do you have some anxiety about getting all your work done, but you also have anxiety about coming home and having to deal with family drama.

The extra anxiety is unnecessary, and it makes everything else harder to deal with.

3. Gaslighting and Abuse Raise Reality Questions

Studies show that children who grow up in a toxic family setting also have trouble identifying and interpreting their own emotions.

In a dysfunctional household, you may have been blamed and punished for things that weren’t your fault, or holidays may have been ruined due to violent outbursts and fights, yet your parents will look back on it as if it was wonderful. This manipulates a child’s sense of reality, and it forces them to question their own feelings.

4. Relationships Suffer

Your family life acts as the example for all of your future relationships. If your family is dysfunctional and manipulative, you might be preconditioned to act that way in a romantic relationship in the future, not even realizing what you’re doing wrong. This doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships, but to friendships, office relationships, and so on.

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You’ve probably experienced a friendship, intimate relationship, or maybe even a family member with a controlling personality. They aren’t exactly uncommon to find in people, but they are extremely difficult to deal with on a long-term basis. People with controlling personalities will try to, well, control you. They don’t easily accept people who behave or do things differently than they would, and it causes problems for all parties involved.

Unfortunately, people with controlling personalities may not even be aware of what they’re doing when they try to influence the behavior of others. In fact, people with controlling personalities often feel anxiety when things don’t go according to their plan, which is why they do the things they do. Here are five ways that someone with a controlling personality will try to keep you under them.

1. They Constantly Criticize

Controlling people are never satisfied with the way someone else performs a task.

Something as simple as washing the dishes could be enough to warrant criticism from a controlling person, even if you do it exactly how they want. If the controlling person isn’t doing it themselves, then it’s being done the wrong way.

2. They Make You Feel Guilty

Guilt is a controlling person’s go-to tool in order to hold dominance. They will use anything and everything at their disposal in order to make a person feel guilty if they don’t do something their way.

This creates a toxic relationship, no matter if it’s a friendship or a romantic relationship. You shouldn’t do things because you feel guilty, and the person you do them for should never manipulate your feelings.

3. They Impose Arbitrary Rules

Controlling people believe that they know what’s best for everyone at all times, which means they’re going to establish meaningless and unnecessary rules to “help” you through everyday tasks. These rules could be about anything, including what’s appropriate behavior in a specific setting.

Really, they are absolutely pointless, but the more control they have over you, the better they feel.

4. They Don’t Want You to Be You

Being yourself isn’t good enough for a controlling person; they want you to be like them.

Being an independent person isn’t acceptable, and as soon as you start to show signs of independence, you’re doing something wrong. A controlling person might get visibly angry when you make a decision without them, or god forbid, against their wishes.

5. They Hate it When You Ask Why

If you are in a relationship with a controlling person, you probably already know not to ask why, unless you want to create serious problems. Controlling people hate to be questioned, and since they know everything, they can’t wrap their minds around someone questioning their logic. Their word is law and it should never be up for debate.

Understanding human personality is complex. Science is always looking for clues or windows into peoples’ personalities that can be universalized across the board. There have been both casual and scientific studies on human personality and what it could relate to in the physical realm. For instance, people have looked to eye shape, hand size, and even head shape in order to determine personality, but it could be easier than that.

Look at the image below.

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If you were forced to choose, would you say that the image is of a circle? The answer to that question could actually reveal a lot in regard to your political views.

In a study, people were shown a variety of geometric shapes similar to the (alleged) circle above. The information gathered from the study reveals that people who are willing to say the image is in fact a circle are more open minded politically. They tended to also believe in the legislation for cannabis, equal marriage rights for same sex couples, and in a government-funded welfare state.

Those who said the image was not of a circle tended to be the opposite politically. They held a more conservative stance and therefore believed in small government, stricter drug laws, and so on.

The thought process behind the study was to see how many people were willing to tolerate differences and imperfections in the shapes, and therefore, within politics as well. In essence, if you can tolerate the imperfections in the shapes, you are more likely to be tolerant in other areas of your life.

The author of the study explains that it could be a matter of negativity bias. The political views we hold are due to some deep-seated psychological bias related to the way we see the world. If you tend to react toward negative stimuli more intensely, it usually means that your political views are more conservative.

The important thing to remember is that there is no right or wrong answer. Whether or not you see a circle doesn’t matter, what matters is the connection between your willingness to accept the shape as a circle and your view of the world around you. Everyone is a little different, which is what makes psychology so interesting. It’s also the reason why studies like this will continue for the sake of understanding human personality and conditioning.

Bragging is an immature act that should probably stop at some point before you graduate high school. The problem is that we see it literally every day. Social media has made it incredibly easy to brag and have the entire world listen to you. People even brag about the meals they have via social media, posting pictures for their friends or followers to see; I don’t care what you’re eating, and in no way is your meal going to elevate the status you hold in my eyes. Even the term “followers” insinuates that you’re the leader of your little social media tribe.

The fact is, you should never brag about anything. Having confidence isn’t a good excuse for bragging-like behavior. Confidence is believing in yourself, bragging is only an attempt at looking good in the eyes of others. But there are things, besides all topics, that you should never brag about. Here are six.

1. Sports Teams

This is something numerous people like to brag about, yet many of them have absolutely no connection to the team at all.

I’ve heard people brag about their favorite NFL team, but they don’t even live in the area where the team is based. It’s one thing to enjoy a comeback that your alma mater pulled off in the last seconds of play, but if a team you have no association to completely destroys an obviously worse opponent, keep your mouth shut.

2. Various Modes of Transportation

When it comes to your car, truck, motorcycle, or tricked out RV, just drive it. If you like to work on cars, you don’t need to flood your social media page with the latest thing you’re doing to the engine.

Not only are most people clueless as to what you’re doing, but they don’t really care either. The reality is, cars are just tools to get you from one place to another, and a lot of us are satisfied with that.

3. Significant Others

It’s hard not to brag when you’ve found a partner who truly makes you happy.

However, we’ve all experienced that person who just won’t shut up about their boyfriend or girlfriend. At some point, you have to realize that this person you’re now infatuated with is only this significant to you; no one else has any close or intimate connection to this person, so we just don’t care as much.

4. A Night to Remember

If you have a great story about something totally unexpected happening last night, it’s fine to talk about the next day, but leave it at that. After these stories have been heard once, they sort of lose their luster from that point on. Not only do you look bad talking about yourself and some friends nonstop, but it won’t be as significant to someone who wasn’t involved.

If you are going to talk about what happened last night, at least make sure it’s something truly interesting.

5. Careers

Taking pride in your work is great, especially because so many people hate their jobs. However, because so many people hate their jobs, you shouldn’t talk about how much you love yours; you’re just making it harder for those who have enough trouble waking up in the morning. For many people, a job is only a tool that serves a greater purpose in life, so talking about yours won’t really be that interesting.

6. Exercise

Most Americans have difficulty working out. Although choosing to work out and get the right amount of exercise is an obviously healthy life decision, it’s still not the norm. When you constantly talk about how much you work out, people don’t take to it very well, especially if they can’t relate.

Personal authenticity is a life decision. It’s the decision you make when you know yourself, when you know what you stand for and how you want to live your life. It involves self-knowledge, moral integrity, and a commitment to the values that make you who you are as a person. This decision has the power to weed out the unimportant people in your life and show you who is worth keeping around. It’s a decision that not everyone in your life will be on board for; it’s intimidating.

Authenticity is a personality trait that’s hard to find in today’s society. People spend a ludicrous amount of time pretending to be someone they’re not for the sake of outside perception.

However, these people have no idea who they actually are, what they stand for or why, and most importantly, they don’t know who they want to be. Here are four signs that you or someone you’re around is authentic.

1. Integrity

An authentic person will always choose to live according to his or her values. They’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what’s important in life, and they plan on sticking to it.

Someone who is willing to give up on their ideas or values easily isn’t authentic, and they haven’t taken the time to consider what they really care about. When you have integrity, you’re going to upset some people around you; they don’t realize they’re upset simply because they want to be the same way.

2. Courage

Being authentic takes courage. The amount of people who are authentic in the world today is astronomically small, which means if you’re authentic, you swim against the current.

Not only is this challenging, but it’s scary as well. It takes a great deal of courage not only to follow your own values, but to also know yourself as you truly are. Without courage, you can’t live the way you know is right.

3. Introspection

In order to be authentic, you have to know yourself.

This is a learning exercise that lasts a lifetime, but it needs to start as soon as possible. Being authentic takes a great deal of self-reflection, self-knowledge, and understanding.

After all, how can you be authentic without knowing who you are? Take a look at yourself with honesty and open eyes; figure out who you are, what’s important, and what you care about in order to be yourself.

4. Acceptance

Lastly, if you want to be authentic, you have to accept who you are.

In fact, the more willing you are to accept your true self, the less willing you are to pass judgement onto others. When we condemn others, we’re really condemning ourselves through the failures of someone else; judging others says more about yourself than it does the other person. Authentic people who accept the people they are, will always be willing to accept others.

An empath is a person who feels the world around them. Their emotions are not entirely their own, and they can feel the pain of those around them. Even something as small as a negative photograph is enough to deeply affect an empath. If you have an empath as a friend, or maybe you believe you’re an empath, you’ve probably noticed some of these things already.

Empaths have a greater understanding of the world around them than most people. It’s because of this understanding that people naturally gravitate to them for company. They achieve happiness through healing and helping others, which makes them the ideal companion. Here are five things you’re likely to notice if you’re in the presence of an empath.

1. They Don’t Tolerate Dishonesty

Empaths can see right through you most of the time.

If you’ve lied to an empath, you probably found out the hard way that it doesn’t really work. Not only will they be able to feel what you’re feeling (discomfort when it comes to lying), but due to their capacity for understanding, they can spot a lie pretty quickly.

2. Crowds are Overwhelming

If you’re an empath, you probably avoid crowds as much as you can. Even going to a concert can seem more like a chore than a good time.

Since empaths feel the energies of the people around them, crowds can be extremely overwhelming or emotional. Not only are there too many people, but there are too many emotions in one place; it can be exhausting.

3. They’re Happy When They’re Helping

Empaths want to help others in need. Healing is one of the ways empaths achieve happiness in life, and it isn’t uncommon to find an empath working in the medical field, such as nursing.

When an empath heals or helps a person through a troubling time, it’s almost like they are helping themselves. When a person is no longer experiencing pain, either is the empath.

4. They’re Authentic

Empaths have an authentic personality; they can’t be anyone but themselves. Empaths are honest, true, and loyal, which makes them the perfect friend or person to confide within. They accept who they are and have known exactly who that is from an early age. You won’t find a more authentic person to be around.

5. They Love Animals

Empaths have a special connection with animals. You might notice it around an aggressive dog who suddenly calms down, or you might even notice it when wild animals don’t run away. When an empath sees an animal, they see innocence and purity; it’s a refreshing experience compared to how they feel around most humans.

Finding “the one” is undeniably difficult. Everyone wants to know if who they’re with is the right person for them, but most importantly, they want to be able to know for sure. As it turns out, science might be able to provide an answer when it comes to find your soulmate, and it has to do with actual, physical signs felt by the body. Feeling butterflies in your stomach when you’re around the person you love might actually be a good indicator, according to science.

As was stated before, there are some physical signs that they body will experience when you find “the one.” These signs might vary from person to person, but generally everyone will be able to experience them when they’re with the right person. Here are six signs that you’ve found the person who’s right for you.

1. You Feel Optimistic

If you’re in a relationship where you feel depressed, chances are that it isn’t the relationship for you.

The right person will make you feel optimistic in regards to the future; they support your hopes and dreams rather than push them to the side. Life is better when the glass is half full, and you want to be with someone who helps you see that.

2. You Feel Like Yourself

You can’t help but go through life putting up a front for people. Whether it’s your career or your personal life, you put of a façade to hide weaknesses around the people you don’t trust to the fullest extent. However, this shouldn’t be the case with your soulmate; you need to be able to be yourself. If you’re with someone who makes you feel like you, stick with them.

3. You Feel Healthy

If you’ve found the one, you’ll feel healthier overall.

You’ll have a better outlook on life, you’ll be able to express yourself emotionally through both good and bad times, and you’ll want to make smarter choices for the sake of longevity. These are all things that make your life healthier both mentally and physically.

4. You Feel Empathetic

Empathy is a sign that someone is extremely important to you. When your loved one hurts, you hurt too, which is a sign they’re the “the one.” You’ll know you’ve found the one when you can’t bear to see the hurt, no matter the reason. You’ll feel like trading places with them so that you can suffer in their stead.

5. You Feel Calm

When you’re in their presence, you’ll feel an overwhelming sense of calm. It won’t matter what you have to do the next day or even in the next moment, you’ll feel like things will work out the way they need to. This is something that people rarely experience in life, but something they look for forever.

If you’ve found it, keep it.

6. You Feel a Need

Strong emotions produce physical symptoms in the body, and when you feel a need to be around a person mentally, emotionally, and physically, you’ve found someone worth holding onto. Some people will tell you that you shouldn’t need anyone, but this is a different kind of need, almost like an ache; you don’t need anything specifically, just their presence.

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Emotional abuse is serious. It can be just as detrimental as physical abuse in a relationship, but with longer lasting wounds. Some people find themselves in emotionally abusive relationships without even realizing what’s happening, and that’s the problem.

Emotional abuse, if untreated, can leave mental scars that last for years. Some people never recover, and the baggage they carry because of their experiences end up affecting their future relationships as well. It’s important to be able to identify emotional abuse before it becomes a lasting problem. If you find yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship, it’s time to get out. Here are ten little known signs that emotional abuse is present in your relationship.

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Your partner becomes angry when you don’t answer their phone calls, text messages, or any other form of communication.

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They make you feel small or unimportant so as to keep the spotlight for themselves. If you care about a career or a goal, they’ll treat it as a hobby.

#3

Your partner doesn’t allow you to make your own decisions, they often pressure you into making the decision they think is the best.

#4

You are often accused of something you didn’t do. Anything that makes your partner unhappy, they will try to blame on you.

#5

Your partner doesn’t take into account your right to privacy. They often reveal private moments, fears, or insecurities with outside parties.

#6

When your partner doesn’t feel good, it’s your fault for not making them happy. You’re often told that you’re holding them back.

#7

They demand to be a part of all your plans; you have no alone time to yourself or with others.

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In public, your partner often criticizes you in small ways that only you could notice. Some of these ways include a disapproving glance, an eye roll, or something of the like.

#9

They never let you forget about mistakes you’ve made in the past. Embarrassing moments are always brought up in order to poke fun or have a laugh at your expense.

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You find yourself overworking on things that aren’t that important simply to avoid your partner’s disappointment. No matter how hard you work, it never seems to be enough.

If you notice any of these signs within your own relationship, it’s time to find a way out.

Little signs like this can have a hugely negative impact over time. No one deserves to be in a relationship with someone who is emotionally abusive; you have the right to find someone who allows you to be yourself, and who makes you happy.

When you enter into a relationship, you hope it’s with someone who can fulfill your needs emotionally, physically, and mentally. However, it’s difficult to have the self-awareness to know exactly what those needs are. Not only do you have to know your own needs, but you also have to know your partner.

Your partner’s zodiac sign can tell you a lot about what they need from you, and the best way to go about fulfilling those needs. Here’s how to know what your partner needs according to their zodiac sign.

Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 18)

People who fall under this sign are said to have a number of different personality traits and are very complicated. They’re full of adventure and are always ready to take the next big trip. They enjoy deep conversations, but have a tough time laying all their emotions out on the table.

Pisces (Feb 19 – March 20)

Pisces are sensitive romantics. They enjoy the arts and expressing themselves creatively, which means they need a partner who enjoys those things as well. Due to their sensitive nature, they need emotional intimacy in their relationships, along with vulnerability.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries require honest above anything else. Communication is the key when in a relationship with someone who falls under this sign. Don’t hide anything from them and be willing to communicate when the relationship falls under tough times. They are bold, transparent, and they need someone who can tell it like it is.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

These people are the strong, silent type who will say everything is perfect on the surface. They don’t do well when it comes to expressing their feelings, so their partner needs to help them communicate how they feel. They need to feel comfortable in a relationship, and they can’t be pushed into anything.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Geminis have a tendency to lose track of their emotions and thoughts, which means they need someone to help them stay grounded. They can seem like flakes, but in reality, they have a ton of different interests that they just lose track of what they’re doing. Make sure that you keep things exciting for them while in a relationship.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Cancers give everything when it comes to their relationships. This includes the mind, body, soul, heart, home, clothing, and even the dog simply for the sake of their partner’s happiness. As their partner, you need to make sure that you don’t take advantage of their giving nature. Due to their nature, they have extremely high expectations of others, especially their partner’s.

Leo (July 23 – Aug 22)

Leos are confident and carefree, and they need a partner who also reflects this type of nature. They don’t do well in a relationship where they feel like they’re being held back from something important. Although they can come off as arrogant, they just have high expectations of themselves. They require serious relationships with serious intentions.

Virgo (Aug 23 – Sep 22)

Virgos are analytical and logical when it comes to their relationships. Although they have a tender side, they rarely let the people around them see it. They need a partner who is emotionally available, but also someone who doesn’t let their emotions rule the show when it comes to making decisions.

Libra (Set 23 – Oct 22)

Libras have a very peaceful and balanced nature. They need to make sure that any relationship they are in will support this nature before considering anything serious. Equality is extremely important to people who fall under this sign, and that goes double for any romantic entanglements.

Scorpio (Oct 23 – Nov 21)

Scorpios are likely to have trust issues when it comes to their romantic relationships. If you’re the partner of a Scorpio, you need to be able to show that you’re trustworthy before anything gets too serious. If you don’t, be expected to be kept at an arm’s length. When they feel comfortable, they will open up.

Sagittarius (Nov 22 – Dec 21)

These people love adventure, they’re witty, and they’re philosophical. Due to their philosophical nature, they can feel lost at times, which is why they need a partner who will be able to comfort them when the time comes. Their emotions can flare easily, so they need someone to help keep them in check.

Capricorn (Dec 22 – Jan 19)

Capricorns are often seen as traditional. They are hardworking and determined to achieve their goals no matter what. They need a partner with a strong work ethic who understands when they stay at the office late and miss dinner. However, their partner also needs to be able to show them the benefits of slowing down and enjoying life in the present.