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Any relationship will inevitably reach a point that’s difficult. All relationships take work as they develop, grow, and change as the people involved in them change. If two people aren’t willing to work toward their future together, the relationship won’t last. Couples are often too worried about whether or not they’ll have to endure hard times, when they should be worried about how they’ll react when those hard times undoubtedly hit.

If you’re in a relationship that’s hit a rough stretch, you need to first decide if it’s worth working through. When you make the decision to work toward a brighter future, it helps to know what to say to your partner. The right words can make all the difference in regards to saving, fixing, or even just maintaining a healthy relationship. Here are six things you should tell your partner.

1. Thank You

Gratitude is everything in a relationship. Even when a relationship is at its best, each person involved will be doing things for the other in a display of affection. Those displays will eventually become less frequent if no gratitude is given, which is why saying thank you can make all the difference in the world.

Next time your partner does something for you, even when it seems insignificant, say thank you.

2. I’m Sorry

One of the hardest things people can do is admit when they’re wrong or when they’ve made a mistake. Don’t let pride get in the way of a relationship that could otherwise stand the test of time.

Simply saying sorry when you’ve screwed up can change your partner’s mood and make them more forgiving in the future. It will also end arguments that put unnecessary strain on a relationship more quickly.

3. I’m Proud

Your partner wants to know that you’re proud to be with them.

When your partner feels valued, they have the motivation to work harder in the relationship no matter the issue. Make sure that you’re being specific when you tell your partner that you’re proud of them; if you’re proud of what they do around the house, how hard they work or provide, or for any other reason, make sure you say why specifically.

4. I’m Making More of an Effort

Let your partner know that you’re working hard to give them what they want. If your partner takes the time to address an issue they’ve been having, you owe it to them to make the effort to fix it. If your partner wants you to do more around the house, try to clean up after yourself, help during meal times, or organize cluttered areas, let them know you’re trying.

5. What Do You Need?

When your partner has been having a rough day or week, let them know you’re willing to do what you can to help.

Simply asking your partner what they need can go a long way. It’s not so much the act of physically doing something, but the fact that you’re there for them when they need an extra hand. If your partner does mention something you can do, make sure you do it as soon as possible.

6. I Love You

These three simple words will say it all. If you feel genuine, real love for your partner, you can’t express those feelings enough. Saying I love you will make your partner feel like the work they do for the relationship is all worth it. If you feel it, say it, and say it often.

Anxiety disorders can be both frustrating and exhausting. Anyone who suffers from anxiety disorders, whether they be acute or chronic, will tell you just how terrible they can be. What can be so frustrating for people with anxiety disorders is that they know their symptoms come as a result of brain signal misfires; they know the reasons behind their anxiety, but are still powerless to reverse the effects.

Fighting anxiety takes a great deal of energy, energy that could be put forth toward something more productive. Medical professionals and psychologists alike are baffled by the roots of the anxiety that people feel, and it’s almost impossible to pinpoint a specific moment, trauma, or reason behind the anxiety that people feel. If you think you suffer from anxiety, here are four signs of chronic anxiety that shouldn’t be ignored.

1. Fatigue or Exhaustion

As was stated before, anxiety forces a person to utilize a great deal of energy simply to fight off its often overwhelming effects.

This can leave you feeling exhausted even when you’ve had a full night’s rest. Anxiety can also be worsened by stress, which makes it difficult to sleep or stay asleep. In fact, many people feel anxious about the amount of stress they feel and how little they can sleep; it’s a vicious cycle that can be incredibly hard to break.

2. Muscle Aches and Pains

Anxiety has the power to manifest itself in physical ways, including aches and pains. People who suffer from anxiety often feel it in their bodies as much as in their emotions.

Chronic anxiety takes its toll overtime, and the body will feel pain as the disorder worsens. If you start to feel muscle aches as well as an increasing amount of anxiety, you could be suffering from a chronic disorder.

3. Inability to Concentrate

Anxiety and stress go hand in hand; when you feel stressed out, it can be almost impossible to concentrate on any one task. Instead of devoting your time and energy to one thing, you feel overwhelmed by the amount of responsibilities that need taken care of.

Chronic anxiety, often coupled with stress, will make it hard to concentrate on the things you normally enjoy doing.

4. Digestive Issues

Medical experts understand that there is a direct link between the brain and the digestive system. When people feel anxious or suffer from chronic anxiety, they often have digestive problems as well. People suffering from chronic anxiety typically suffer from irritable bowel syndrome, or IBS. In fact, 80 to 90 percent of serotonin, the brain’s “feel good” chemical, is created in the gastrointestinal tract, so the link between the two is obvious.

Everybody knows that alcohol and regular drinking can damage the liver, but besides the morning after a night out, you probably don’t give this organ much thought. The largest organ of the human body is the skin, and the liver comes in second. It’s the poison control center for your entire system, filtering out harmful substances before they enter the blood stream, and helping the body turn food into energy. It’s no surprise that when the liver starts to fail, the body fails with it.

It is vital to ensure that your liver is healthy in order to live a healthy life. It can be argued that good health starts with the liver, so it’s important to give it some more thought from time to time. Even if you avoid alcohol already, there are plenty of diseases that the liver is still susceptible to, including Nonalcoholic Fatty Liver Disease or NAFLD.

But how can you tell if your liver is unhealthy? Here are five signs that can help.

1. Confusion and a Loss of Energy

If you’re experiencing fatigue, weakness, or a general lack of energy, you could have an unhealthy or toxic liver. Fatigue that’s combined with nausea, diarrhea, and a loss of appetite are some of the first signs of liver failure.

According to the American Liver Foundation, toxins can also build up in your brain due to a failing liver. This will cause problems with concentration, sleep, and memory.

2. Blood Clotting and High Cholesterol

Hypertension and high cholesterol levels are both symptoms of obesity and underlying liver disease.

Being obese puts a great deal of stress on your body as a whole, and it makes the liver’s job that much harder to do. If you have problems with weight, you need to check your cholesterol levels more frequently, and it’s probably a good idea to check your blood enzymes for signs of liver disease as well.

3. Jaundice

Jaundice is present in the body when the skin, nails, and whites of the eyes become yellow.

If you notice this happening to you, you need to seek medical attention right away. Jaundice is a sign that the liver is not only failing, but has progressed to a state of cirrhosis. This is incredibly serious and needs to be addressed as soon as possible.

4. Swelling in the Abdomen or Legs

Swelling is the body’s way of telling us something is wrong. Inflammation of the organs is no different, so if your liver is toxic, you’ll probably notice swelling in the abdomen.

The problem is that inflammation of the liver means that the toxicity is advanced, and you need to be greatly concerned. This is especially scary for people who are overweight as the swelling will be much harder to notice. Advanced toxicity can be diagnosed through swelling of the lower legs as well.

5. Sensitive Skin

Itchy skin or spider veins can also be indicators of a toxic liver as they are both symptoms of edema or inflammation occurring underneath the skin. People who also suffer from diabetes may notice their skin take on a bronze coloration when liver failure is close at hand.

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Verbal language isn’t the only way humans communicate. Body language is almost equally as important as the words we use to express how we feel. This is why the movements we make with our bodies is appropriately described as a language all on its own. Body language can tell you whether or not someone is telling the truth, how comfortable they are in a particular setting, or how interested they are during an activity or conversation.

However, body language doesn’t just mean hand gestures or facial expressions; body language also applies to posture. The way a person is sitting can tell you a lot about who they are and what their personality is like. In order to help you understand just how much posture matters in terms of body language, take a look at these positions labeled A through E.

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Position A

This position shows you the person seated is creative, charismatic, and lighthearted.

They are known for speaking before thinking about their words first, and are generally happy most of the time. Although they can be extremely interesting and the opposite of boring, they have trouble facing serious issues in their lives.

Position B

The crossed-legged sitters are typical dreamers. They have creative and innovative ideas that force anyone listening to think from a different perspective.

Their power of imagination is immense, and they tend to get restless when they’ve lingered in a place, job, or relationship for too long. Their intriguing nature attracts all kinds of people, and they always have plenty of friends.

Position C

These people are messy, chaotic, and easily distracted. From the outside looking in, their lives seem out of control, but they find solace in their chaos. They don’t worry about what other people think, especially when it comes to their appearance. They choose functionality over trendiness every time, and they enjoy being comfortable.

Position D

These people are intelligent. However, they also have a hard time facing conflicts head on; they’d rather keep their feelings on the inside rather than start a fight. This position also shows neatness and openness when it comes to relationships.

Although they tend to avoid conflict when possible, they won’t be afraid to confront someone in the face of wrongdoing.

Position E

This type of seated position indicates a person who believes all things have a right time and place. They are very goal oriented, and they believe in shooting for the stars when it comes to their careers and futures. Education is highly valued by these people and they will work hard to make sure it’s in order. They take the time to make great first impressions, which means dressing nicely and working on their appearance. These people also have a hard time take criticism.

I’m a pretty “go with the flow” kind of guy, for the most part. There aren’t many things that I’m OCD about, except when it comes to my teeth. For some reason, I’ve always enjoyed taking care of my teeth. I brush at least twice a day, and always right when I wake up and right when I go to bed. Not only that, but I also brush for a few minutes each time. Instead of seeing it as a burden, I enjoy it, which I know some people don’t get.

I’m always amazed when I find out that someone doesn’t brush their teeth at night, or can only stand to brush their teeth for a few seconds at a time.

What I had never done was use organic coconut oil as a rinse. It sounds like a waste of time at first, but apparently there are some pretty great reasons to do it. It’s called oil pulling, and it works almost like a natural, organic mouthwash. Simply swish with coconut oil for a few minutes a day, like you would with any mouthwash, and that’s it. Just don’t spit it out in the sink, your pipes won’t enjoy it as much as your teeth.

Here are 6 amazing benefits of oil pulling.

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1. Promotes Oral Hygiene

Oil pulling is a great way to rid the teeth of bacteria that causes gingivitis, cavities, and bad breath. Although this is advertised by almost every oral hygiene company that sells mouthwash, coconut oil is natural and organic; it doesn’t have the alcohol and other potentially harmful chemicals mouthwash typically contains.

2. Whitens Teeth

One of the best benefits to oil pulling is that it whitens your teeth without the use of harsh chemicals that can damage enamel. The oil possesses a natural antibiotic and antiviral property that actually cleans teeth while keeping them incredibly white. When you start to use oil on a daily basis, you could see the results within a few weeks or even days in some cases.

3. Increases Energy

When the mouth is full of bacteria and fighting off infection, the whole body has to work in order to stay healthy. This takes energy and most people don’t even realize it. After oil pulling for a few weeks, people start to notice that they have an increased amount of energy. That’s because the body doesn’t have to work as hard to kill off harmful bacteria.

4. A Simple and Complete Detox

The majority of the germs our bodies fight off enter through the mouth; it’s a gateway for contamination. It stands to reason then that if we fight off the germs at the source, our bodies will experience a complete, yet simple detox. Oil pulling kills an incredible amount of germs just sitting in our mouths, which will help the rest of the body as well.

5. Clears the Skin

There’s a reason why the food and liquids we consume have an effect on our skin. The mouth is the perfect way for toxins to enter the bloodstream and wreak havoc in a number of areas throughout the body, especially the skin. By using oil to remove those toxins in the mouth, we can keep them from entering the blood at all, which will clear up the skin. It’s perfect for people who suffer from acne.

6. Aids in Hormonal Changes

Hormones can get thrown off by the most seemingly innocent of reasons. When any foreign substance enters the body, it has the potential to throw off hormones and send the body into a frenzy. This includes mouthwashes that utilize chemicals in order to be effective. By using natural, organic oils to clean your teeth, you keep your hormones functioning the way they should.

Success is sought after by many. Some people even achieve successful by telling others how to be successful. Many buy self-help books, read origin stories of some of the most wealthy and famous, and others even attend seminars that promise to help them achieve their own success. We are so enamored with the idea of achieving success that we ask successful people almost every question in the book. One thing you may not think about, however, is what a successful person does before they go to bed.

It turns out that successful people have bedtime rituals just like the average person, and they’re actually quite interesting. If you want to find out what some successful people do before they hit the sack, take a look at these five habits, you might just want to switch up your nighttime routine.

1. They Relax

Successful people don’t work before they go to bed.

In fact, many of them ensure that they have enough time to unwind before lights out so that their minds can relax. What they do specifically to relax is irrelevant, what’s important is that they make the time to do it.

If you want to be successful, give your brain time to relax.

2. They Read

Behavioral experts have found that many successful people read right before going to sleep.

Not only does reading give the mind time to relax, but it also distracts you from your responsibilities. For successful people, stress is a regular occurrence; it’s important to fight the negative effects of stress each day.

3. They Plan

Sometimes, people have trouble sleeping when they’re too worried about what they have to do the next day. Successful people take the time to plan ahead, even just half a day in advance, in order to keep their minds from running wild.

In your head, your responsibilities can seem overwhelming, but if you write those responsibilities down, they become clearer and easier to handle.

4. They Disconnect

Being successful means being reachable; successful people have to be ready when an opportunity strikes.

They often check their emails, phone messages, or catch up on the news throughout the day. When it comes to bedtime though, these successful people disconnect from technology and the outside world. Phones on airplane mode, laptops shut, and tablets put to sleep.

5. They Don’t Drink

This doesn’t mean that successful people abstain from alcohol completely, but many don’t drink right before going to sleep. Alcohol has a negative impact on the quality of sleep a person gets throughout the night. The National Institute of Health claims that consuming alcohol before going to bed keeps a person in the lighter stages of their sleep cycle, making REM sleep harder to achieve.

According to the World Health Organization, it’s estimated that around 350 million people are suffering from some type of depression. Depression is a real problem that causes people unnecessary suffering around the world. It can stem from a lack of sleep, it can be brought on through already existing mental disorders, or it can even take hold of your life slowly, each day getting worse and worse. The regular ups and downs of life can even be enough for some to slip into depression.

It can be hard to stay positive when you start to feel the effects of depression in your own life; everything becomes more difficult when you’re depressed, but it is possible to will your mind into an uplifted, happier state. Here are 10 quotes that should help anyone keep a positive attitude in the face of depression.

1) Tenzin Gyatso

“The greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being.” – Tenzin Gyatso

2) Stephan Hoeller

“A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear that results from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl.” – Stephan Hoeller

3) Joyce Meyer

“A Positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.” – Joyce Meyer

4) Helen Keller

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” – Helen Keller

5) Fyodor Dostoevsky

“Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.” – Fyodor Dostoevsky

6) Harry Emerson Fosdick

“Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world: making the most of one’s best.” – Harry Emerson Fosdick

7) Anais Nin

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

8) Thich Nhat Hanh

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

9) Rainer Maria Rilke

“Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to love everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

10) Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Stress is a part of everyday life. We stress out over our jobs, our friends, and our families, which is normal. However, the amount of stress we feel can have a negative impact on our bodies as a whole, and no part of the body is immune to its effects.

We can’t do away with stress completely, as a little bit of stress is a good thing. During a fight or flight situation, stress allows us to make decisions on the fly, ignore certain actions that aren’t useful in the present moment, and ultimately deal with a tough situation. But too much stress can lead to anxiety, heart disease, headaches, digestive issues, insomnia, or a loss in concentration. Over-stressing isn’t good.

Here are seven signs you’re too stressed out, and don’t even know it.

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1. Digestive Issues

Medical experts believe that there is a direct connection between the brain and the digestive system, which means stress wreak havoc on your stomach. If you’ve been having digestive issues, it could be because you’re over-stressing about a tough situation at work, home, or within your personal relationships.

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2. Regular Colds or Infections

Stress causes the circulatory system to work harder than it should, which can raise your blood pressure and suppress your immune system. This means that your body is going to have a much harder time fighting off colds or infections than it normally would.

When you’re too stressed, it’s not uncommon to get sick.

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3. Chest Pain

Stress and anxiety go hand-in-hand, which means that you could experience tightness in the chest or even pain.

Chest pains only make things worse as they tend to frighten someone already dealing with anxiety. If you’re having regular chest pains or palpitations, it’s probably because you’re overstressed.

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4. Fatigue

When you’re stressed, your body and your mind are working harder than they should. When you feel stress more often than not, it’s going to take a mental and physical toll. Fatigue is common in people who are too stressed out, as they can’t seem to get their minds to relax.

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5. Weak Sex Drive

Stress can weaken a person’s desire to have sex, which applies to both men and women.

Stress overtakes chemicals in the brain that are responsible for stimulating sex drive. Stress has been linked to problems in ovulation for women and a lower sperm counts in men. Again, stress makes it hard to focus or concentrate on anything, including the things you typically enjoy doing.

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6. Weight Fluctuations

Stress can cause a person to lose or gain wait, depending on how a person deals with stress specifically. Some people who feel too much stress find comfort in food, others simply don’t have an appetite at all. It all depends on the person, but stress will usually cause abnormal fluctuations in weight.

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7. Headaches

According to the Mayo Clinic, headaches are more common in those who feel regular amounts of stress than those who don’t. If you’re prone to migraines, stress can make these much worse than they already are, which is hard to imagine. Tension headaches are the most common headache you can experience, and stress is their number one cause.

Lao Tzu was an ancient philosopher and writer from China, and is typically dated around the 6th century BCE. He is credited as the founder of Taoism, and as the author of the Tao Te Ching. Followers believe that Lao Tzu was able to achieve the highest state of consciousness a human can experience, which has made him more of a deity than an actual man.

Lao Tzu established four spiritual rules of living, or four virtues through which to center your life. He believed that if you were able to live your life in accordance with these virtues, you would be able to achieve a level of wisdom and consciousness that most people never have the chance to experience. Below are the four spiritual rules he laid out for his followers, which you can find in the Tao Te Ching.

1. Gentleness

Gentleness is something the world needs more of, and it simply applies to all living things. Lao Tzu believed that all life deserved kindness, and that humans shouldn’t be motivated by egotistical desires.

Essentially, being gentle means giving up the need to be right; being kind is more important than being correct or asserting your own beliefs. When we’re gentle, we stop trying to dominate the situation and instead live in harmony with others.

2. Natural Sincerity

This virtue is all about staying true to who you are. Being authentic is incredibly important in regards to being happy or living harmoniously. If we’re constantly swayed by external forces, we’ll lose sight of who we really are, and who we really need to be.

By accepting the truth about ourselves and others, we not only find peace in this life, but we can help others along their paths as well.

3. Reverence for All Life

Lao Tzu believed that respecting all forms of life was essential for harmony.

All creation and creatures were equally important, and they require equal respect. Trying to dominate and control life only leads you away from enlightenment; you can’t find peace in the midst of a struggle for control. Loving and honoring oneself will lead to a mutual respect for all life in this world.

4. Supportiveness

Similarly to the other three virtues, the virtue of supportiveness applies to all life on Earth, including ourselves. When we help ourselves, we become more equipped to help others along the path to happiness. Not only do we need to love and respect all life, but we need to support it as well. Giving is more important than receiving, and that’s what this virtue is all about. Lao Tzu believed that this comes natural for humans, but the world we live in today teaches us to be the opposite.

Adults in the United States typically don’t get enough sleep. This is a bigger problem than it sounds as a lack of sleep can be linked to a variety of other issues. Not getting enough sleep will impact your workday, your ability to drive a car, and even the attention you give to your friends and family. Lack of sleep is actually considered a major health problem by most medical organizations because of its effect on society as a whole.

According to the experts, adults need between 7 to 9 hours of sleep every night in order to be healthy. If you’re active, this number could be even more as your body needs sufficient time to recover.

Insomnia is incredibly common in the United States, and it affects one out of every three adults at some point their lifetimes. Not only is it dangerous for the person suffering from insomnia, but it’s dangerous to the rest of us as well.

However, insomnia’s link to depression is the most notable and dangerous risk on the list. The inability to fall or asleep or stay asleep at night is a key contributor to the onset of depression.

The problem is that when you start to have negative thoughts regarding a personal situation, those thoughts are hard to remove from your mind. When you lay in bed at night, those thoughts keep your brain from relaxing and falling asleep easily. Instead, you stay up at night thinking about problems, possible solutions, and other things that make it almost impossible to get a goodnight’s rest. If this persists for some time, depression will set in, and your inability to sleep will make everything much worse.

There are a number of things that can contribute to a lack of sleep, including Seasonal Affective Disorder, or SAD. This is a form of depression that’s triggered in people when the days start to get shorter and the nights start to get longer. Less sunlight during the day can really mess with a person’s circadian rhythm, thus resulting in an inability to fall or stay asleep. Although the symptoms of SAD will go away in the spring, an entire season is too long a time with insufficient sleep.

The key is to figure out what you need to do to relax your brain before bedtime. Clearing your mind of thoughts before you fall asleep will help fight depression and ensure you’re rested for the next day.

Meditating before bed can be a great way to relax the mind and clear your head of any negative thoughts. If you have trouble letting go of all the tasks that need completing the following day, trying making a list before you go to bed as way to empty your thoughts down on paper. Journaling has even been used as a helpful tool for those who seem to obsess about the day or the days to come.

Exercise is another great way to ensure a peaceful sleep at night. Not only is it perfect for relieving stress, but it also releases chemicals in the brain that make you feel good; the release of endorphins will not only make you feel good, but give you more positive outlook on life in general.

Sleep is important. If you aren’t getting enough, you’ll suffer throughout the day, and you may even fall into a state of depression. If you’re having trouble getting 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night, you might need to think about making some lifestyle changes that will ensure you live a happy, healthy life.