Personal authenticity is a life decision. It’s the decision you make when you know yourself, when you know what you stand for and how you want to live your life. It involves self-knowledge, moral integrity, and a commitment to the values that make you who you are as a person. This decision has the power to weed out the unimportant people in your life and show you who is worth keeping around. It’s a decision that not everyone in your life will be on board for; it’s intimidating.
Authenticity is a personality trait that’s hard to find in today’s society. People spend a ludicrous amount of time pretending to be someone they’re not for the sake of outside perception.
However, these people have no idea who they actually are, what they stand for or why, and most importantly, they don’t know who they want to be. Here are four signs that you or someone you’re around is authentic.
An authentic person will always choose to live according to his or her values. They’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what’s important in life, and they plan on sticking to it.
Someone who is willing to give up on their ideas or values easily isn’t authentic, and they haven’t taken the time to consider what they really care about. When you have integrity, you’re going to upset some people around you; they don’t realize they’re upset simply because they want to be the same way.
Being authentic takes courage. The amount of people who are authentic in the world today is astronomically small, which means if you’re authentic, you swim against the current.
Not only is this challenging, but it’s scary as well. It takes a great deal of courage not only to follow your own values, but to also know yourself as you truly are. Without courage, you can’t live the way you know is right.
In order to be authentic, you have to know yourself.
This is a learning exercise that lasts a lifetime, but it needs to start as soon as possible. Being authentic takes a great deal of self-reflection, self-knowledge, and understanding.
After all, how can you be authentic without knowing who you are? Take a look at yourself with honesty and open eyes; figure out who you are, what’s important, and what you care about in order to be yourself.
Lastly, if you want to be authentic, you have to accept who you are.
In fact, the more willing you are to accept your true self, the less willing you are to pass judgement onto others. When we condemn others, we’re really condemning ourselves through the failures of someone else; judging others says more about yourself than it does the other person. Authentic people who accept the people they are, will always be willing to accept others.