1. You try to find love before you truly love yourself.
I’ve always thought that most of our deepest desires can be satisfied from within, and love is absolutely one of those things. In order to find a soul that will become so deeply intertwined with ours, you have to have a certain self-awareness and understanding first. You have to be true to yourself and love yourself before anyone else will actually be able to love you. You can’t block out the past or let society tell you what it is you need to do. Take the time to fully examine what it is in this life that you need.
After that, you can attract true love.
2. You don’t really know what you want in a partner.
This is a fairly common experience. Sometimes we just don’t know exactly who it is we’d like to spend our lives with. Sure, you want to be with a nice guy or a woman who is strong and independent, but who do you want to live with outside of these very broad descriptions? It’s okay to take your time and really get to know what it is that you want in a partner and figure out the best way to get the soul mate you truly want.
3. You have too many expectations for potential partners.
On the other hand, your picture perfect lover might be a little bit too precise. If you find yourself wanting an artist but a landscape artist and he knows how to cook or she knows how to play instruments or you want a lover who plays in a band or maybe one with a masters degree and money – you’re overthinking all of it. Having too many expectations will push people away that you may be able to love with your full spirit.
4. You’re desperate.
Desperation is one of the worst qualities you can have when you hit the dating scene. You want to find your soul mate because, well, that’s just what you want. Badly. Sometimes this desperation can come from rejection. Other times it could be rooted in societal or familial pressures to find someone, shack up, marry and start a family. But don’t be desperate for a lover.