1. You try to find love before you truly love yourself.
I’ve always thought that most of our deepest desires can be satisfied from within, and love is absolutely one of those things. In order to find a soul that will become so deeply intertwined with ours, you have to have a certain self-awareness and understanding first. You have to be true to yourself and love yourself before anyone else will actually be able to love you. You can’t block out the past or let society tell you what it is you need to do. Take the time to fully examine what it is in this life that you need.
After that, you can attract true love.
2. You don’t really know what you want in a partner.
3. You have too many expectations for potential partners.
On the other hand, your picture perfect lover might be a little bit too precise. If you find yourself wanting an artist but a landscape artist and he knows how to cook or she knows how to play instruments or you want a lover who plays in a band or maybe one with a masters degree and money – you’re overthinking all of it. Having too many expectations will push people away that you may be able to love with your full spirit.
4. You’re desperate.
Desperation is one of the worst qualities you can have when you hit the dating scene. You want to find your soul mate because, well, that’s just what you want. Badly. Sometimes this desperation can come from rejection. Other times it could be rooted in societal or familial pressures to find someone, shack up, marry and start a family. But don’t be desperate for a lover.
5. You’re afraid of being alone.
If you want someone because you can’t stand being alone then it’s time for you to double down and spend some time alone. As much as you can. You need to learn how to be happy on your own. You should know how to love yourself and what it is that you’re looking for. Otherwise, failure is pretty much guaranteed.